Well, I luckily don't have this problem and hope I wont if it would ever come to that.However I am a child of divorce so I have lived that.
It truely is hard on the children. I didn't have a stable home life as a child.I was in and out of the court system of custody battles.I'd have both parents talking down about the other in our presence. I heard so many lies from both my parents I somehow lost most of the truth I did know. Now my relationship with both my parents is strained and difficult for numerous reasons. It went as far as my father not even comming to my graduation, wedding reception, and other events. I still am not sure if it was mostly him or my jealous stepmom. It was even worse when I gave birth to my daughter. I was so thrilled that day and they were arquing in the background while I was just asking if they would be in later and letting them know what was going on. I was beginning to wish no one was there with me.
The ironic thing is all these years later they are now starting to talk again somewhat. That's hard for me as well.They are doing that for my brother's sake. Not for me after me being the one asking for them to be civil all these years. If it comes to my brother he's the favorite and things are done for him. But, me I have to still deal with the anomosity between them. I wish things were different.I know I would've lead a different life and things would have been better.They weren't though and I'm me because of it.
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