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Originally Posted by kitsch_k
i agree..right now im young so im headstrong on pursuing a career..but if the time comes when i have to choose..ill definitely go for my family  |
Kitsch... stick to your passion, girlfriend! One argument for choosing career over family is that being a rising star in a competitive field takes a lot of energy (which comes with youth), sacrifice and flexibility (able to jump on a plane and take a trip cross country or overseas at a moment's notice without worrying about small children or even a hubby) and earning power. Right now is the best time to strike while the iron's hot. You can ALWAYS have family in another phase of your life.
Having said that, all you childless women should KNOW... and I don't want to pressure you too much... that it is medically proven that a woman's fertility is highest at the age of 25! And then as you get older, the likelihood of having birth defects rises... etc. Because of the notion that a woman can get pregnant in their 40' s or even 50's, many married couples postpone getting pregnant, only to realize that women in their mid to late 30's cannot get pregnant, or have many miscarriages. Very sad.
And I must chime in about all this talk of "Work/Life Balance" and the stuff in "Working Mother" magazine. It's easy to become a mom and CEO when you can afford to eat-out/take-in, have a nanny, housekeeper, gardener, financial planner, etc.
And another thing (I'm on a roll here)... I just read a really good argument FOR women not giving up careers to be stay-home moms (me included, altho I did not give up my full-time job voluntarily, I was laid off). The writer believed that with today's divorce rate at over 50% many women mistakenly believe their husbands will care for them and have a rude awakening (my best friend's sister is now going thru divorce (husband was an unemployed, unhelpful bum) and has a 5 and 2 year old and says she never would have had children had she known it would be this difficult); the reduction in earnings because if a mom stayed employed her salary would have grown exponentially; plus going back to work say when the kids are 15 and you're in your 40's does not bode too well when you're then competing with 20-somethings... well these are some pretty compelling reasons to keep a career.
So choose wisely and own up to your choice. Even if it means you will choose your career over a family. Or even marriage. Hey, more power to those women who do choose their career -at least they are honest and driven and have integrity. Don't just choose to change your life's path because of family pressure or because your friends. Be true to yourself!!!