Being a SAHM to me was never about being a lay about who did nothing all day as some feminists seem to assume or suggest. I did what a daycare would be paid to do, as well as cooking, cleaning, laundry, things that my husband could NEVER do because he worked 18 hours six days a week or more most weeks. These are things that he would have to pay someone else to do for him-so why is it wrong that that person be his wife? Does a marriage certificate somehow mean that a person is entitled to be looked after by another, but never pay them?
Sorry but I don't buy that. If I had gone out to work, it would have been to pay for day care, to pay for a cleaner, and to pay for meals that we ate out every night. Our quality of life would not have been so good, nor would our health, or the happiness of our child.
Besides, I worked my butt off. My kid never slept. Till she was almost six months old she slept for 20 minutes at a time. Then she woke for two hours and slept again for 20 minutes. I haven't slept more than 3 hours straight in over two years. My job is hard, and I believe it would be a lot easier if I sent my child to day care and worked out of the home full time. But that would hurt her, and I won't do that for my own selfishness.
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