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Originally Posted by bagcrazy
For me personally, I don't believe in co-sleeping. I wanted to teach my daugher to self-sooth and know how to fall asleep on her own. If she is scared, or has a nightmare, etc., she will come in with me, which is fine. I just didn't want it to be every single night. I have found that we both sleep better and are more rested in the morning when we sleep in our seperate beds. Everyone is different and has to do what is best for themsleves and their child. I can't and don't want to make that decision for someone else, as well as I don't want someone making the decision for me.
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Britjojo, Emmy and Bagcrazy all make good points for and against co-sleeping. It's really up to the mother and/or father to decide what's best. Another perspective on the issue, though, is whether or not the parents decide to have a child-centered home or not. My dh and I want our children to know that altho they are an important member of the family, they do not dictate the family's activities, including mealtime, daily routines, fun stuff and even sleeping arrangements. They can express their point of view, but the final decision is made by the adults - me and dh. And they need to understand/respect that their mommy and daddy need to have their own time together - from having an uninterrupted conversation to sleeping. For me, a happy marriage is key to a happy family and happy children; this is best accomplished by establishing boundaries.
But as a special treat, my dh and I have agreed to let them both sleep with us on Weds. nights only. As crowded as the bed is, we actually enjoy having our kids sleep with us for one night only. Sometimes co-sleeping is as comforting to the parent(s) as it is to the child!