Recently I was contacting people from my high school to inform them of our upcoming 20 year class reunion. I ended up talking to one guy I went to school with about church. He is a Pastor and has been considering opening up a new church. My husband and I are looking for a home church. Me and the Pastor started talking on the phone about church and all things God and the possibility of my husband and I joining his efforts to start a church. We have had several phone conversations about Church and our Beliefs. Our beliefs seem to really mesh. We spoke yesterday and it seems our conversation meanered off the topic of religion. I don't mind so much, but I don't think it would be appropriate for us to have to many like conversations, but this guy likes to talk and talk a lot! How can I ease up on the conversations without hurting this really sweet person?
Thats a tough one, I guess you really just have to be straight with him and stop the topic wandering next time with an 'I'd rather keep this to church stuff at the moment' kind of statement.
If he really is a nice man, he'll respect that, and I think he'd prefer that to you avoiding him over it.
If he has already viewed the relationship as having moved towards friendship then yes, you might have a problem. The only thing I could really suggest is that you be vigilent; always watch to see that the conversation is not going off the original topic and move it back as soon as you can. If you keep it all business, he will start to understand.
I really don't want to be rude, especially because I know that he wouldn't intentionally do anything that even appeared to be inappropriate, but I think there is a slippery slope when it comes to married people having friends of the opposite sex. I guess mostly the reason I'm worried about how to handle this is because I'm not the most tactful person in the world and I know that I can be very offensive without meaning to.
I am not sure that I am with you regarding married people having friends of the opposite sex. All my life my better friends were male; I was never much of a girly girl and it's a miracle that I ever dated a bloke at all. I was too much one of the lads.
I'm not saying that men and women can't be friends, I'm just saying that once your married the relationships have to change. Not sure how to word my thoughts, but hopefully my meaning will be understood.
The guy can talk
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