Do you like your mother-in-law?

Fizz · #1 (**permalink**) 06-19-2007, 03:31 PM

I think I might like my mother-in-law, if I didn't actually know her or be in anyway related to her. If for instance if she was a casual acquaintance then I might like her just fine. But seeing that I do know quite well, I can't say that I like her at all. As a matter of fact, I call her The Hun. My daughter calls her father "Son of a Grandma Mary", I'm sure you get her meaning.

kitsch_k · #2 (**permalink**) 06-20-2007, 09:50 AM

i dont have a mother in law..but i loved my ex's mom..she was really genuinely nice. i dont have anything bad to say about her at all.

Fizz · #3 (**permalink**) 06-20-2007, 09:55 AM

My first mother-in-law was the greatest. I really miss her. To bad I couldn't have kept her, while still ditching her son.

kitsch_k · #4 (**permalink**) 06-20-2007, 09:56 AM

hahaa..u still keep in contact with her fizz?

Fizz · #5 (**permalink**) 06-20-2007, 10:12 AM

Sadly no, I wasn't able to keep contact with my first mother-in-law. I think I might have mentioned on other post that my first husband was abusive so when I left him, I went into hiding, I didn't even tell my family where I was. My first mother-in-law gave one of my sisters her new phone number for me, but my sister wouldn't give it to me, because she's a major control freak and thought she was looking out for me. I suppose her intentions were good, but now I have no way to make contact with the most wonderful mother-in-law a girl could have. Shame her son was such a jerk and that's putting it nicely!

littlecat123 · #6 (**permalink**) 06-20-2007, 09:44 PM

I don't dislike my mother-in-law. I don't know that I really like her. She definitely likes to outdo everyone. I've pretty much learned to accept that and to give up any hope of having something better or having the last word.

That being said, she has a lot of fine qualities and is overall a nice person.

kitsch_k · #7 (**permalink**) 06-21-2007, 06:57 AM

awww that's too bad fizz...

i hope my future mother in law's nice.. having a monster in law would be really stressful for the marriage.

Fizz · #8 (**permalink**) 06-21-2007, 10:49 AM

It's not bad Kitsch as long as you have a supportive husband that understands that his mother can't make his life hard anymore, but his wife sure can, lol.

carebear · #9 (**permalink**) 06-21-2007, 08:12 PM

I like her when she's not commenting on everything I do. She's so negitive.

angelthelson · #10 (**permalink**) 06-21-2007, 08:32 PM

i cannot say that i hate or like my MIL but she's pretty nice. she bought me some clothes and she treats me well but yeah that's how MIL's are sometimes they can be B*tchy too and she is in a way quite a bit but im not saying she totally is LOL

DianneMK · #11 (**permalink**) 06-22-2007, 01:06 PM

I love my current MIL.She is a true Southern belle with a heart of gold.

Fizz · #12 (**permalink**) 06-22-2007, 01:49 PM

That is so cool Dianne, my Grandmother was a Classic Southern Lady, they just don't make them like that anymore!

kitsch_k · #13 (**permalink**) 06-23-2007, 08:06 AM

lucky for u diane!!! u got a one in a million MIL!

carebear · #14 (**permalink**) 06-23-2007, 08:35 PM

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Originally Posted by DianneMK

I love my current MIL.She is a true Southern belle with a heart of gold.

Lucky!

I'm going to be that mother in law. I want to be loved.

DianneMK · #15 (**permalink**) 06-23-2007, 08:49 PM

Now my former husbands mom...well she is a total psych case...seriously.Want to know why??
1.She has threatened to blow my head off with a shotgun her husband keeps at their house.
2.She has tried to break the windows out of our car.
3.She has sent me email with all kinds of horrible nasty words from A to Z.
4. She loves waving at my husband and I telling us we are number one...if you know what I mean.
5.When she was being nice she was at our home one time,talking with my oldest daughter who was staying with us.Then she left...but an hour later..she kicked our front door open cussing my husband and I out.

Oh and by the way did I ever mention that this witch is severely bipolar?

Fizz · #16 (**permalink**) 06-25-2007, 10:46 AM

From what you are saying it does appear she might be slightly bipolar, haha. Ok total nut job! Do you still have to deal with her?

Jewel · #17 (**permalink**) 06-25-2007, 05:19 PM

I generally get along with my mother-in-law. We've gotten into a couple arguments, but we agree to disagree on some issues. We don't really have any serious issues. We've gone shopping together on occasion.

KeLLi · #18 (**permalink**) 06-25-2007, 10:50 PM

I like my husband's real Mom. Her and I get along well. As for his step mom... I hate her cuts!! She doesn't like me either so we just stay away from each other.

kitsch_k · #19 (**permalink**) 06-26-2007, 08:45 AM

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Originally Posted by KeLLi

I like my husband's real Mom. Her and I get along well. As for his step mom... I hate her cuts!! She doesn't like me either so we just stay away from each other.

im sure it must be awkward for u especially during family gatherings!!

Fizz · #20 (**permalink**) 06-26-2007, 12:48 PM

Family gatherings with my husband's Mom has always been an uncomfortable nightmare, I try to just get through it with my sanity intact. The woman is just a real cast iron B-itch.

KeLLi · #21 (**permalink**) 06-26-2007, 01:12 PM

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Originally Posted by kitsch_k

im sure it must be awkward for u especially during family gatherings!!

Not really because I won't go to family gatherings with my husband. See his step mom was the only female in the family until I came along. My husband, before he met me, was the odd ball. He didn't have the girlfriends, but his step brother did. Well, his step brother is the one who can't get girlfriends and here we are married for 4 years and together 7 1/2 years. She just gets an attitude with me all the time.

Like saturday, hubby and I are at the airport we have 4 bags to get. We get them and hubby's dad carries one bag. I have the heaviest bag and hubby has one. His step mom turns around and looks at me struggling to keep up with them and looks at hubby and says 'Mikey, do you want me to take your bag?'

She's always making me feel bad because I can't give her a grandchild right now. Hubby and I have told them we have been trying for 3 years now and I have issues but they think it's funny and like to make me feel dumb.

msbuttercup · #22 (**permalink**) 06-26-2007, 09:27 PM

I'm lucky I've got a GREAT mom-in-law. She's very sweet and is a compulsive cleaner - even at our house!

She even went to Holt Renfrew to pick up my ten Anya Hindmarch bags that I pre-ordered.

spency · #23 (**permalink**) 06-29-2007, 09:28 AM

She's like my mother.....

spency

Subliminal

kitsch_k · #24 (**permalink**) 06-29-2007, 10:02 AM

kelli - sorry to hear about that....
i pray you have a baby soon!!!

im sure that will make life rosier between you guys..hehe hopefully!

KeLLi · #25 (**permalink**) 06-29-2007, 10:56 AM

Thanks. I doubt it will which is fine because I stay away from her and she stays away from me, for the most part.

Fizz · #26 (**permalink**) 06-29-2007, 04:20 PM

Right now I have it easy because my husband's mom is mad at us for moving away from her, she won't even call to talk to the kids.

KeLLi · #27 (**permalink**) 06-29-2007, 04:52 PM

Aww Fizz I'm sorry.

kitsch_k · #28 (**permalink**) 07-02-2007, 10:28 AM

really?? that's bad that she's involving the kids in ur situation. she;s really unreasonable.

Fizz · #29 (**permalink**) 07-02-2007, 12:46 PM

She is hurting herself more then she's hurting anyone else, it's not like when the kids were smaller and couldn't see how she is. Now that they are older they clearly see who she is and there is nothing we can do to hide it from them.

kitsch_k · #30 (**permalink**) 07-03-2007, 05:41 AM

yeah..and your children are having a very unfortunate image of their grandmother because of the way she is acting...too bad...

britjojo · #31 (**permalink**) 07-03-2007, 06:33 AM

Answering the question in the OP, my MIL and I get on very well. Despite being separated from her son, and dragging his ass through court, she still supports me and my daughter. We are rent paying tenents in her house and we get on like a house on fire.

I consider myself very lucky.

Fizz · #32 (**permalink**) 07-03-2007, 10:28 AM

That is awesome Britjojo, you are very lucky!

Kitsch, I hate it, but there's not a lot I can do. We do have a friend that his parents treat our kids like their Grandchildren so that's really cool.

medako · #33 (**permalink**) 07-05-2007, 11:50 AM

I don't care for my MIL a lot, but we aren't around each other much, so that helps. I am civil and even nice to her when we're around, but I still don't care for her all that much.

(she's my husband's stepmom - so that probably has something to do with it)

lcsamano · #34 (**permalink**) 07-05-2007, 02:04 PM

I don't get along with my mil at all. I can't tell you the last time that I saw her. We live only a few miles away. I can't even say if I remember the last time that she saw my children.

medako · #35 (**permalink**) 07-05-2007, 06:22 PM

lcsamano, that's so sad. You would think she would at least put out the effort to see the kids.

My in-laws doesn't see my son very often at all. They never put out the effort to see him, we always have to go to them - which we don't do very often.

I'm not sure they're even all that interested in my DH. He was in a really bad accident that required emergency surgery and they were both very non-chalant about even coming to see him in the hospital. And even when they did come, all mil could talk about was her other grandkids (HER son's kids).

Fizz · #36 (**permalink**) 07-06-2007, 08:49 AM

Medako that sounds like my mother, but not with her Grandchildren, she's like that about her Step-Grandchild. All we ever here about is this little boy and frankly the kid is a little monster. Still it really has hurt my nieces and nephews because she was never much of a Grandmother to them.

lcsamano · #37 (**permalink**) 07-06-2007, 07:22 PM

Medako, my in laws could care less about my husband. He is the middle child and they cater to the older and young siblings. My In laws will drive 6 hours to see my nephew and pay for my other niece and nephew to come from oregan to California but wont drive the few miles to my house. My husband and I actually have a bet going on right now. His birthday is Sunday and we are betting to see if his parents call him on SUnday or how many days after. They usually call a day or two after and tell him.

shainee · #38 (**permalink**) 07-06-2007, 08:52 PM

I dont like my mother-in-law but I don't completely hate her. I just feel that she's not being true to me and just tries to be nice especially when my husband is around. I dont know if she really feels that way towards me, but I feel it.

kitsch_k · #39 (**permalink**) 07-07-2007, 07:06 AM

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Originally Posted by shainee

I dont like my mother-in-law but I don't completely hate her. I just feel that she's not being true to me and just tries to be nice especially when my husband is around. I dont know if she really feels that way towards me, but I feel it.

well in my opinion, in those circumstances, your instincts are probably right!

medako · #40 (**permalink**) 07-07-2007, 10:45 AM

I get the same feeling sometimes. I don't really think my MIL cares for me all that much, but she tries to fake it just to make FIL happy. I honestly don't think she cares at all what DH thinks, afterall, he's not HER son. *sigh*

kitsch_k · #41 (**permalink**) 07-11-2007, 11:23 AM

yeah, when the difficult mother is YOUR mother, sometimes you just want to be oblivious to avoid conflict..

Fizz · #42 (**permalink**) 07-11-2007, 01:48 PM

I'm ok with how my MIL feels about me, because as I've already stated she's pretty dreadful and doesn't have positive things to say about anyone.

Lila42 · #43 (**permalink**) 07-11-2007, 07:56 PM

I don't dislike my mother-in-law, but I can't say I like her, either. We are just from different worlds. She thinks it's a sin to eat out for dinner. My mother and I both enjoy eating out. Her frugality is limiting and it isn't warranted. Oh well, I could have it worse.

Gilipsie · #44 (**permalink**) 07-11-2007, 08:00 PM

I love my mother-in-law, she is wonderful. I think she is more loved than my own mother. I don't know how that happened but it did.

dreamr802 · #45 (**permalink**) 07-12-2007, 06:34 PM

I don't have a mother-in-law but I like my boyfriend's mother, she is so nice.

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