My father died when I was 18 and my mom remarried 3 years later. I think that for awhile she didn't picture herself ever getting remarried, but then as my sisters and I started to grow up she realized that we would one day go off and have families of our and she wanted to have someone to share her life with too, so she wouldn't be alone. It was really hard for us to adjust to her dating at first. Not only because it was hard to see her with someone other than our father, but also because it is weird to be going through the same dating dramas as your mother!
As for the blended family, in our situation it works out really well because we are all older and don't really need to be "raised" anymore. Because of this, we don't view him as a father replacement and just as someone who makes our mother happy. My youngest sister is in college and all of his boys are in their 20's. So, we don't have to deal with the usual trials and tribulations of blended families like having us all live under one roof and having to learn how to get along. We just get to have the fun part (big family get togethers) without all of the bad stuff.
That being said, I think it is a good thing that you can't imagine yourself remarrying. One, because it is sad to think about someone dying. Two, because you shouldn't be able to imagine yourself loving anyone but your husband for the rest of your life. I know my mom couldn't, but I'm happy that she has found someone to share the rest of her life with and that this man makes her happy.
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