Valentine's Day

PrettyinPink · #1 (**permalink**) 02-06-2008, 03:05 PM

Do any of you ladies have fabulous plans for Valentine's Day? I haven't even begun to think about it until now. I have been so consumed with studying and I've been swamped at work, so haven't had much time. Do you have any traditions that you always do or do you tend not to do anything?

Jewel · #2 (**permalink**) 02-06-2008, 03:14 PM

I don't have plans for Valentine's Day yet, I really dont' know what we are going to do. We might just stay in and watch a movie, or we might go out for a small dinner at the Italian place we both like.

WorkerBea · #3 (**permalink**) 02-06-2008, 04:10 PM

I will start the day out getting my special fellow a nice breakfast in bed after a little early morning workout (if you know what I mean ladies

). For supper I am planning a very nice seafood dinner with all of the fixings, then hopefully alot more play time (wink wink). I think that I am getting a beautiful Pearl Necklace

for Valentines this year, I have been hinting for one for quite a while now and I happened to see a Jewelery store card on the seat of his pickup the other day

Aunt Bea · #4 (**permalink**) 02-07-2008, 01:02 PM

I will most likely be doing laundry. I know not very exciting but I dont have a boyfriend to spend it with. I have kinda put the hints out there hoping to be asked out on a date....but so far nobody has asked. I was going to ask a guy, but I dont know if thats like not right for a gal to ask a guy. I dont know....I have been out of the loop so long from dating that I just dont know whats socaially acceptable anymore. the dating world has changed so much. and as you all know, I am trying to work out these issues I have with fear of STD's so this is extra hard for me. I am working on it and getting help, but its just a long road. But it sure would be nice just to have a date on V day, havent had one in years. and it dont need to be extravegant for me either, just a simple dinner and some flowers would make me happier than a clam!

Romy · #5 (**permalink**) 02-07-2008, 01:04 PM

My husband does not do Valentine's Day and neither do I. It is such a waste of time, money and expense. We love each other and do not need a day to express it. It is much nicer to just wait until we both have time off or are on vacation to go to a nice dinner and not have to fight the crowds of all the couples who feel inclined to partake in a "Hallmark Holiday".

QueenBee · #6 (**permalink**) 02-07-2008, 01:09 PM

I throw a Love Party every year. When the guests go home.. my husband gets the chocolate treatment in the bedroom.

WorkerBea · #7 (**permalink**) 02-07-2008, 02:11 PM

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Originally Posted by QueenBee

I throw a Love Party every year. When the guests go home.. my husband gets the chocolate treatment in the bedroom.

When you say a love party, do you mean one of those parties that everyone swaps partners? I have hear of this but always thought that it was a wives tale.

I don't know how I feel about you hosting Love Parties

This could change our relationship on here

QueenBee · #8 (**permalink**) 02-07-2008, 03:58 PM

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Originally Posted by WorkerBea

When you say a love party, do you mean one of those parties that everyone swaps partners? I have hear of this but always thought that it was a wives tale.

I don't know how I feel about you hosting Love Parties

This could change our relationship on here

Well, we do limit the extent of the activity...

Aunt Bea · #9 (**permalink**) 02-07-2008, 04:00 PM

WOW!!!! I know I am working with my issues on STD's but geez, isnt that an excellent way to contract them?? Gosh, I dont mean to sound judgemental, but isnt that an orgy??

QueenBee · #10 (**permalink**) 02-07-2008, 04:03 PM

I have a waterski friend that has connections in the condom department and he sends them to me by the case. He is this hot sexy blond guy that lives in Michigan... he is my SuperHero

Aunt Bea · #11 (**permalink**) 02-07-2008, 04:09 PM

Gosh he sounds like a dream to me!! When I get done with my therapy, maybe you can introduce me to that hottie!!

Have you shagged this sex god yet??

does your group participate in phone sex too?? I would try that because I know you cant catch anything nasty from it.

anne022196 · #12 (**permalink**) 02-07-2008, 04:11 PM

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Originally Posted by Aunt Bea

I will most likely be doing laundry. I know not very exciting but I dont have a boyfriend to spend it with. I have kinda put the hints out there hoping to be asked out on a date....but so far nobody has asked. I was going to ask a guy, but I dont know if thats like not right for a gal to ask a guy. I dont know....I have been out of the loop so long from dating that I just dont know whats socaially acceptable anymore. the dating world has changed so much. and as you all know, I am trying to work out these issues I have with fear of STD's so this is extra hard for me. I am working on it and getting help, but its just a long road. But it sure would be nice just to have a date on V day, havent had one in years. and it dont need to be extravegant for me either, just a simple dinner and some flowers would make me happier than a clam!

ohhh!!!aunt bea i love you

...lets cheers...i don't have a date too, but if someone will invite me i'll go for him for overnight...

Aunt Bea · #13 (**permalink**) 02-07-2008, 04:21 PM

Oh anne! you naughty girl!!!

I wish I could do that! I could never mess around with a guy on the first date..... and I just got to focus on my therapy with this dating issue. I am seeing a therapist for this now, and have been for about a week and a half. She is a great doctor and she really understands my situation and wants to help me. its not going to be easy, but I am going to try my best. I want so badly to fall in love again. being lonely has taken its toll on me....I kinda hit rock bottom and now I am trying to rebuild my social life.

anne022196 · #14 (**permalink**) 02-07-2008, 04:33 PM

yes you can aunt bea...why don't you try it? try to socialize people around you to ease your pain..i am not naughty but i just love going out with guys doing something goodie..

Romy · #15 (**permalink**) 02-07-2008, 04:42 PM

Yes Aunt Bea! Learn to get out there and find some people that allow you to come out of your shell a bit. You do not need to change who you are, you just need to realize that there is a whole new world out there!

ricci · #16 (**permalink**) 02-07-2008, 05:59 PM

Ask that boy out aunt bea!!!!!!! Dayum girl, you aint gettin any younger! double up on the condoms if you have to , but get out there girl! Let your hair down and put one on your date, ricci style!

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Originally Posted by Aunt Bea

Oh anne! you naughty girl!!!

I wish I could do that! I could never mess around with a guy on the first date..... and I just got to focus on my therapy with this dating issue. I am seeing a therapist for this now, and have been for about a week and a half. She is a great doctor and she really understands my situation and wants to help me. its not going to be easy, but I am going to try my best. I want so badly to fall in love again. being lonely has taken its toll on me....I kinda hit rock bottom and now I am trying to rebuild my social life.

Aunt Bea · #17 (**permalink**) 02-07-2008, 08:16 PM

OH gosh you girls are just making me blush over here!!!

Gosh, I feel like a teenager! I am actually wondering if I should as a guy out on V day! maybe I should talk to my therapist about it first! I could call her, she did give me her home phone if I had any questions. OMG! Should I really do this??

EncoreGal · #18 (**permalink**) 02-07-2008, 08:25 PM

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Originally Posted by Aunt Bea

OH gosh you girls are just making me blush over here!!!

Gosh, I feel like a teenager! I am actually wondering if I should as a guy out on V day! maybe I should talk to my therapist about it first! I could call her, she did give me her home phone if I had any questions. OMG! Should I really do this??

Get a date and get laid. It will give you an entire new outlook on life. You'll love the dirty deed...

Aunt Bea · #19 (**permalink**) 02-07-2008, 08:56 PM

OH geee.......see this is the hard part.....I want it SOOO bad, but am still dealing wiht these fear issues! I want sex so bad. I havent had it in years!!!! Ooooo! what should I do!!

i got to call my therapist!!!!!

anne022196 · #20 (**permalink**) 02-08-2008, 09:55 AM

thats good aunt bea...well if you need a couple of advice just ask us...anyway, if someone will invite you this coming V Day well its ok to go out with him to do some goodie things...and take note: dont forget to bring "protection"

Aunt Bea · #21 (**permalink**) 02-08-2008, 10:20 AM

OMG!!! I am so excited about this.....I dont know what to do!!!!

I called my therapist and talked with her about this valentine day date thing.....and she said TO GO FOR IT!!! she said thats the only way I can get back out there and find someone is to TRY. she even said to ask a guy out if I dont get invited...... GOSH!!! SHe really thinks it would be good for me to get out on a date again! she thinks it will be good for my therapy and its actually part of what she had planned, just a bit sooner, but since I asked her, she said GO FOR IT NOW!!!

OMG!!!!!! I am so nervous!!

there is this guy that works over in electronics dept..... I could go ask him. I think he is single. He's not a romeo, but he's not fugly either. he's kinda geeky being into the electronics, computers, and TV's and stuff we sell, but I dont want to get in trouble as Walmart has a company policy about co-workers dating. I think thats anti-american and a violation of my rights!!!

what should I do???

anne022196 · #22 (**permalink**) 02-08-2008, 02:43 PM

thats good aunt bea and good luck....well yah its ok to invite him anyway its just only a date...try to share and drink with him...

...lets cheers...hope you could share your experience...

QueenBee · #23 (**permalink**) 02-08-2008, 04:07 PM

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Originally Posted by Aunt Bea

Gosh he sounds like a dream to me!! When I get done with my therapy, maybe you can introduce me to that hottie!!

Have you shagged this sex god yet??

does your group participate in phone sex too?? I would try that because I know you cant catch anything nasty from it.

Oooh Aunt Bea, shame on me for not responding to this... if you are ever in the Michigan area you will have to let me know. I can hook you up with my friend. You will love him. He is so romantic.

katt12 · #24 (**permalink**) 02-08-2008, 04:17 PM

Aunt Bea,
I'm new to this chatting stuff but not new to dating scene. I say go ahead and jump right back in there girl. But keep a close eye on the things that could jump back at you. It's a jungle out there and since you've been out of the loop for a while be prepared that things have changed. Men want and desire some strange stuff these days. So just make sure you get yours first and don't cave to the pressure of doing anything you don't want too. Otherwise girl HAVE FUN!!!!!

Aunt Bea · #25 (**permalink**) 02-08-2008, 04:36 PM

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Originally Posted by QueenBee

Oooh Aunt Bea, shame on me for not responding to this... if you are ever in the Michigan area you will have to let me know. I can hook you up with my friend. You will love him. He is so romantic.

WOW! he sounds just dreamy!!! I assume you have done the horizontal mamba with this stud then?

katt12 · #26 (**permalink**) 02-08-2008, 04:49 PM

Aunt Bea, see you have to be a little more original than the horizontal mamba. Think outside the box hon, anybody can do that you have to whip out a little more then that. Plus, a really bad girl doesn't kiss and tell!!!

EncoreGal · #27 (**permalink**) 02-08-2008, 07:01 PM

Have a happy V day Aunt Bea.

WorkerBea · #28 (**permalink**) 02-08-2008, 07:15 PM

Boy I sure hope that it works out for you Aunt Bea. I am here for you if you need a proverbial shoulder to cry on deary

Aunt Bea · #29 (**permalink**) 02-08-2008, 07:21 PM

OMG I cant believe this!!!!!!!!!!! My therapist told me to try to get a date for V day, so I asked that guy over in electronics! .......and he said YES!!!!!!!

we are going out to dinner at a nice seafood place and then for some social drinks after at a nice bar, not a nasty of dive bar.

i cant believe this!!!!!

Should i got out and get a special outfit for the occasion?? I dont want to get too into this....I mean I dont want him to think I am an easy piece to score on.

now that this is a reality, I REALLY need some advice from you gals how I should go about this!!!!!!!

WorkerBea · #30 (**permalink**) 02-08-2008, 07:36 PM

Oh my that is some of the best news that I have heard in a long time. You go girl.

Now as far as an outfit........

Nothing slutty or prudish, just something in between..

What does he see you in daily at work? Do you dress up alot or down play it a bit??

We need to have a base line from which to judge

Aunt Bea · #31 (**permalink**) 02-08-2008, 08:12 PM

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Originally Posted by WorkerBea

Oh my that is some of the best news that I have heard in a long time. You go girl.

Now as far as an outfit........

Nothing slutty or prudish, just something in between..

What does he see you in daily at work? Do you dress up alot or down play it a bit??

We need to have a base line from which to judge

well I dont dress up to much to work at Walmart. I usually wear jeans and a polo shirt or something like that, with the obligatory blue vest (YUCK) so thats what I waer. I was thinking aobut a sexy pair of black pants, with a nice blouse, something kinda jivey. classy, but fun, not slutty, but not grandma wear. and maybe some heels. what you girls think? I mean for a 30 something- year old, I dont think its too over the top is it?

womenwear · #32 (**permalink**) 02-08-2008, 08:13 PM

Happy to read your post Aunt Bea

Just be your self, don't nervous and don't aggressive

Good luck..and enjoy this moment.

ricci · #33 (**permalink**) 02-09-2008, 07:53 AM

well if your mayor wears flannel and a funny stocking cap all day bea, then surely it'll be ok if your date shows up in this attire.

Bea, the night must happen on your pace. Trust me those electronics guys move way too fast but they are awkward as hell. You control the night bea. Work it Workit, Own it!

Make him work for it bea, but don't send the boy home with it in his hand.

Aunt Bea · #34 (**permalink**) 02-09-2008, 10:27 AM

I have never dated an electonics guy before,so this will be all new to me! I just hope he aint one of those types that is texting and emailing and talking on his cell all thru the date. and I dont want him to start tyring to impress me with megawatts, and pixels, and vizios, High def telephones, Blue Tooth TV's, and Wee games, and game boxes. I dont know a thing about that stuff.

so you think I should make him work for it.....like how?

womenwear · #35 (**permalink**) 02-09-2008, 11:05 AM

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Originally Posted by Aunt Bea

I have never dated an electonics guy before,so this will be all new to me! I just hope he aint one of those types that is texting and emailing and talking on his cell all thru the date. and I dont want him to start tyring to impress me with megawatts, and pixels, and vizios, High def telephones, Blue Tooth TV's, and Wee games, and game boxes. I dont know a thing about that stuff.

so you think I should make him work for it.....like how?

Aunt Bea...
You just too much worry...

just let it flow...don't nervous...it will mess it up

If he start talking that you don't understand...just simply tell him that topics is not your domain...and ask him to change the topic

Good luck.

PrincessOfFabulousity · #36 (**permalink**) 02-09-2008, 04:22 PM

For v-day, my boyfriend and I are going to Beni Hana's, then we're going to the opening of the new addition to the LACMA
( los angeles museum) where there'll be cocktails and food.... I'm really excited!!!

kitsch_k · #37 (**permalink**) 02-10-2008, 06:56 AM

valentines day or single awareness day? hehe..im just planning dinner wth my other single friends

drinks to follow of course!

anne022196 · #38 (**permalink**) 02-11-2008, 09:32 AM

wow!!!!aunt bea...good to hear you that...anyway....think positive and i know you can do that...maybe you should post your attire for this coming V-day for us to know whats good outfit for you....and take note: you should wear a girly-look attire...as much as possible buy shoes that fits to that occasion...good luck for your date... and i just hope that we can hear you soon after your date aunt bea....

Aunt Bea · #39 (**permalink**) 02-11-2008, 09:54 AM

OMG its 3 days till my date! I havent been out on a date in years! I am SO nervous!!!! I picked up some nice clothes this weekend. a pretty blouse, its girly looking, something to show a little cleavage, but not slutty looking. and some sexy black pants to go with it. I think a skirt is too far for a first date. I am keeping it there for now. I have having my hair done tomarrow, and my nails done too!

womenwear · #40 (**permalink**) 02-11-2008, 10:28 AM

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Originally Posted by Aunt Bea

OMG its 3 days till my date! I havent been out on a date in years! I am SO nervous!!!! I picked up some nice clothes this weekend. a pretty blouse, its girly looking, something to show a little cleavage, but not slutty looking. and some sexy black pants to go with it. I think a skirt is too far for a first date. I am keeping it there for now. I have having my hair done tomarrow, and my nails done too!

I think its more than enough

Soo..nothing to worry.. right?
Good luck than....have a great date

If you need some new handbag...you can call me..hehehe (just joke

)

anne022196 · #41 (**permalink**) 02-11-2008, 10:41 AM

hey congrats aunt bea....just relax and control yourself...handbag is also good for you and take note it must be match with your clothes and looks classy...anyways,...maybe you should also wear some accessories...and use cologne...and one thing more! go in front of mirror and practice talking yourself..."I can do it" always say this word to yourself....

ricci · #42 (**permalink**) 02-11-2008, 11:20 AM

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Originally Posted by Aunt Bea

I have never dated an electonics guy before,so this will be all new to me! I just hope he aint one of those types that is texting and emailing and talking on his cell all thru the date. and I dont want him to start tyring to impress me with megawatts, and pixels, and vizios, High def telephones, Blue Tooth TV's, and Wee games, and game boxes. I dont know a thing about that stuff.

so you think I should make him work for it.....like how?

nevermind mama, I am confident this boy has his work cut out for him!

Aunt Bea · #43 (**permalink**) 02-11-2008, 11:53 AM

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Originally Posted by ricci

nevermind mama, I am confident this boy has his work cut out for him!

Oh Ricci! your such a confidence bootster!

I am really kinda shy. but I admit the therapy and meds have been helping alot. I have a long way to go yet. but its sure encouraging to have a date and get out in the world again. Its just like high school again for me!

and I owe alot to you girls, you all help me alot. See its not easy for me to talk about some of these things with my friends, Its easier over the interenet for some reason.....maybe I am not embarrased to show my true feelings here. I especially owe alot to you, Anne, & Bad Kitty. you all have your ways of helping me. If Bad kitty hadnt got on my case a bit, I may have never looked for help. I just love this place!

anne022196 · #44 (**permalink**) 02-11-2008, 12:11 PM

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Originally Posted by Aunt Bea

Oh Ricci! your such a confidence bootster!

I am really kinda shy. but I admit the therapy and meds have been helping alot. I have a long way to go yet. but its sure encouraging to have a date and get out in the world again. Its just like high school again for me!

and I owe alot to you girls, you all help me alot. See its not easy for me to talk about some of these things with my friends, Its easier over the interenet for some reason.....maybe I am not embarrased to show my true feelings here. I especially owe alot to you, Anne, & Bad Kitty. you all have your ways of helping me. If Bad kitty hadnt got on my case a bit, I may have never looked for help. I just love this place!

thanx for recognizing me aunt bea....you're so mean a lot to me...and we love you as your true sister....anyway,if you need a help, don't hesitate to consult us... i know you can do that,..just be confident to yourself..

ricci · #45 (**permalink**) 02-11-2008, 12:55 PM

Well thanks aunt bea! I mean that!

I think big kitty means well, she just got frustrated. I think she'd drink with you for sure beazie!

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Originally Posted by Aunt Bea

Oh Ricci! your such a confidence bootster!

I am really kinda shy. but I admit the therapy and meds have been helping alot. I have a long way to go yet. but its sure encouraging to have a date and get out in the world again. Its just like high school again for me!

and I owe alot to you girls, you all help me alot. See its not easy for me to talk about some of these things with my friends, Its easier over the interenet for some reason.....maybe I am not embarrased to show my true feelings here. I especially owe alot to you, Anne, & Bad Kitty. you all have your ways of helping me. If Bad kitty hadnt got on my case a bit, I may have never looked for help. I just love this place!

Aunt Bea · #46 (**permalink**) 02-11-2008, 01:32 PM

OMG I just talked to Cameron over in electronics! and he wants to take me on one of those evening dinner cruises for our V day date!!!! what do you think of that?? we were originally planning on some dinner, and a few sociable drinks in town, but he wants to do this dinner cruise thing because he thinks it will be more romantic..... I dont know......do you think this is going too far too fast? I mean I just wanted a date.....I hope he isnt trying to get lucky on the first date just because its V day. should I agree to this change of plans?

ricci · #47 (**permalink**) 02-11-2008, 01:50 PM

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Originally Posted by Aunt Bea

OMG I just talked to Cameron over in electronics! and he wants to take me on one of those evening dinner cruises for our V day date!!!! what do you think of that?? we were originally planning on some dinner, and a few sociable drinks in town, but he wants to do this dinner cruise thing because he thinks it will be more romantic..... I dont know......do you think this is going too far too fast? I mean I just wanted a date.....I hope he isnt trying to get lucky on the first date just because its V day. should I agree to this change of plans?

BEA! that sounds like big fun. Don't be surprised when he takes you to the stabbin cabin

That's what we used to call it on those boats anyways.

(I know!)

anne022196 · #48 (**permalink**) 02-11-2008, 02:11 PM

agree with ricci...i believe that, that would be the most memorable thing in your life...dont be too afraid bea...you must go on and move on...and hey!!its 2008 now so i believe you dont need to be over conservative,....just go on to the flow a teen age life...good luck