Any Divorcees in the House?

[britjojo]

I'm fast approaching a divorce from my violent husband. We've been apart now for over a year and he hasn't made an effort to even see his daughter in that time, despite coming to the dentist at the end of our block (within view of the house).

So I am just looking for others. Anyone else live through it and come out the other side?

[bagcrazy]

I'm divorced. I'm sorry to hear your husband is abusive. We are all here for you if you need to talk. You and your daughter will get through this. When abuse is an issues (either physical or emotional), I don't think that's a good environment for your daughter or you. You both deserve better - no one deserves to be abused.
Here's my story; My ex-husaband walked out when my daughter was 4 weeks old. We planned the pregnancy, but when she was 4 weeks, he came home and said "are you ready to be a single parent?" and my response was "I'll do what I have to do". That was the end of that and the divorce was final less than 2 months later. He has been in and out of my daughters life numerous times (he keeps moving back and forth from Florida to Michigan). He has broken her heart several times, which I find unforgiveable. Currently he is here and this is the longest he's ever been around. He's a nice guy, although very irresponsible (financially and in life in general) and doesn't have a clue how to be a father. He's a fun friend for her, but he has no clue how his actions and the things he says effects her. I have explained to her that her dad has a hard time staying in one place and to accept him for who he is and enjoy the time she does have with him.

[britjojo]

I'm sorry that your daughter is having a hard time with him, but glad you worked out ok.

I came to America to get married, but he turned out to be violent (never hit me, just threw things, punched holes in things, chased me through the house with a screaming 6 month old in my arms, locked me in the house and took away the key when eight months pregnant). He's a total turd.

When we parted it was because he had tried to hit me, and I got away. He was in a rage, so we left that afternoon and never went back.

He'd always been controlling, never let me have any money, nor would he buy stuff for the baby. Two weeks before she was born, all we had was two pairs of trousers and three t-shirts. Didn't even have any diapers.

I won't go on anymore. Needless to say, he's a jerk and I am glad to be away from him. Nothing is official yet, but I am filing papers as soon as I can get a ride to the court house.

[kitsch_k]

im so sorry to hear about your story guys..i value loyalty and responsibility greatly and its sad to know you were abused by such despicable men. it irritates me that some men never grow up!! what do they need to realize their mistakes...

[britjojo]

Most of them need a smack upside their heads! Men DON'T grow up, I don't think ever in some cases. They don't have the sense that they were born with-at least the ones I have end up with don't.