Ex-bf meeting girls off the internet.

#1 (**permalink**) 10-11-2006, 10:17 PM

Alright, so I just recently found out that my ex-boyfriend started finding girls on the internet and meeting them.

Personally, I think it's stupid and it's risky for even guys... because you have no idea what kind of person is sitting on the other end of the computer screen.

He's not a bad looking guy, many girls find him attractive. So I guess the question I am left with is... why would he resort to meeting girls off the internet when he could easily meet someone on the street?

#2 (**permalink**) 10-12-2006, 04:08 PM

I don't know! That's uber creepy.

I hate to say it, but maybe he is looking for girls on the internet because he hopes they will be easy? Maybe he's looking for a one night stand?

#3 (**permalink**) 10-13-2006, 02:03 AM

At this point, I honestly wouldn't put anything past him. I'm never going to understand people, and why they do such stupid things. How many one night stands does a person need in their lifetime?

#4 (**permalink**) 10-13-2006, 02:42 AM

A person shouldn't need any one night stands in their lifetime! He could just be doing it to get attention. Maybe he is self-conscious about himself, and finds it easier to get to know someone over the internet? Maybe he thinks that he can date several girls over the internet and none of them will find out? Who knows, but that is one relationship you should be GLAD to be out of!

#5 (**permalink**) 10-17-2006, 07:58 PM

I honestly don't know why he would be doing this. I have a girlfriend that does the same thing. She continues to meet men on the net and so far all of them have only been after one thing. I know there are some success stories out there but when you are a nice looking and genuine person there must be a reason why you feel you have to do this. Maybe deep down he has some sort of social problem. My friend uses the excuss that she is shy and lonely and that it is easier to talk to someone not face to face.

#6 (**permalink**) 10-17-2006, 10:47 PM

I guess it for some people it would be easier to get to know someone over the internet. It's just such a shame that there are so many crazy people on the internet that would take advantage of someone's good intentions... just to meet them and attempt to get in their pants.

#7 (**permalink**) 10-21-2006, 12:04 AM

Well, all of the above. Lots of reason, I guess the only thing you can do is talk to him, if he doesnt listen, then leave him be. If he comes asking for help, up to you if you want to help him.

#8 (**permalink**) 10-23-2006, 12:20 PM

Yes I could not agree with you more about this I think that its very scary meeting men or women off the net. I have heard such terrible stories and watched movies and I think that its very scary place to neet people.

#9 (**permalink**) 10-23-2006, 10:05 PM

Well, I think it depends on where they're meeting eachother. Like a reputable online dating site is one thing; I know many very happy, very compatible, very normal couples who have met through such sites. But some chatrooms are way sketchier so I do know what y'all are saying.

#10 (**permalink**) 10-24-2006, 08:05 AM

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Originally Posted by pinkribbon

Well, I think it depends on where they're meeting eachother. Like a reputable online dating site is one thing; I know many very happy, very compatible, very normal couples who have met through such sites. But some chatrooms are way sketchier so I do know what y'all are saying.

Yes there may be more safe but still I am very leary because my husband watches all these scary movies and alot of them have to do with the net.

erindallas · #11 (**permalink**) 11-03-2006, 10:37 PM

Is he randomly hitting on girls on MySpace or Craigslist or is he using Match.com or something? Some people who are busy find online dating appealing. I've never done it but my roommate who is a guy does, with mixed results. I usually meet guys at bars or through work, so maybe it would be better to try online ha ha.

Do you want to get back together with him? I'm sure it's annoying that he is dating/meeting other people but there are plenty of other fish in the sea.

kitsch_k · #12 (**permalink**) 11-04-2006, 09:19 AM

hmmm maybe his self esteem was so crushed when you guys broke up?? maybe that explains his meeting the girls on line??

#13 (**permalink**) 11-05-2006, 03:41 AM

Well I think he would be doing this just for timepass. may be he is not serious of getting someone off the net cause, he must be knowing it can be dangerous too.

#14 (**permalink**) 11-05-2006, 08:25 AM

Hi According to me he is doing this just out of curiosity..

Just ignore him.

kitsch_k · #15 (**permalink**) 11-06-2006, 07:05 AM

why dont you pretend to be someone else and chat him up online? haha..he'd die of embarrassment when he finds out its u!!!

#16 (**permalink**) 11-08-2006, 01:09 PM

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Originally Posted by kitsch_k

why dont you pretend to be someone else and chat him up online? haha..he'd die of embarrassment when he finds out its u!!!

LOL this is what I was thinking and this is what I would do this is such a good idea can you imagine his thoughts when he finds out who it really is. LOL

#17 (**permalink**) 11-08-2006, 11:50 PM

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Originally Posted by erindallas

Is he randomly hitting on girls on MySpace or Craigslist or is he using Match.com or something? Some people who are busy find online dating appealing. I've never done it but my roommate who is a guy does, with mixed results. I usually meet guys at bars or through work, so maybe it would be better to try online ha ha.

Do you want to get back together with him? I'm sure it's annoying that he is dating/meeting other people but there are plenty of other fish in the sea.

He is randomly finding and meeting girls directly from myspace. He doesn't use any reputable dating sites. He's not even a busy person, he no longer has a job... ha ha. I definitely don't want to get back with him, I'm just concerned that he's going to hurt himself or someone else.

#18 (**permalink**) 11-08-2006, 11:51 PM

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Originally Posted by kitsch_k

why dont you pretend to be someone else and chat him up online? haha..he'd die of embarrassment when he finds out its u!!!

That is a clever/hilarious idea!

kitsch_k · #19 (**permalink**) 11-16-2006, 11:44 AM

yeah! don't get mad! get even..it's much more fun! LOL

Ang_J · #20 (**permalink**) 11-16-2006, 02:26 PM

My brother does that. He told me he met 70(!!!!) women from match.com.
I think he's so gross, lol. Who are thoese dumb girls?

kitsch_k · #21 (**permalink**) 11-18-2006, 02:50 PM

its really dumb and dangerous to meet people online...

#22 (**permalink**) 11-19-2006, 08:15 AM

It sure is, especially for girls, what if the one you're going to meet is a rapist? Or a serial killer!

#23 (**permalink**) 11-21-2006, 01:51 AM

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Originally Posted by Ang_J

My brother does that. He told me he met 70(!!!!) women from match.com.
I think he's so gross, lol. Who are thoese dumb girls?

70 women...

that's a lot! Did he find any that he actually liked?

kitsch_k · #24 (**permalink**) 11-21-2006, 10:28 AM

how old is your brother? that's dangerous!!

#25 (**permalink**) 11-21-2006, 02:56 PM

I think meeting women is pretty dangerous. You never know who you could run into --- or even worse, what they have.

I think it is more scary for a woman to meet a man - I certainly wouldn't do it. You hear way too many horror stories!

#26 (**permalink**) 11-21-2006, 05:24 PM

i have two friends who met there current boyfriends on myspace, and i don't know, they've been dating for awhile and seem like nice guys. but i don't know. it creeps me out a little bit.

kitsch_k · #27 (**permalink**) 12-03-2006, 05:44 AM

it is creepy because of the many stories and news where the girl ends up disappearing or dead!!!

#28 (**permalink**) 12-16-2006, 01:32 AM

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Originally Posted by kitsch_k

it is creepy because of the many stories and news where the girl ends up disappearing or dead!!!

I know. That's the scarriest part of all. I've heard so many stories. It's very dangerous, espeically for the younger girls that really don't know any better. Quick!
Somebody call ---->

kitsch_k · #29 (**permalink**) 12-17-2006, 04:51 PM

hahaha!!! that smiley is so appropriate princessdi!!!

#30 (**permalink**) 01-05-2007, 05:52 AM

i have a friend who actually met with a person she met online and the guy is actually decent. its his first time to meet someone online too

agent_orange · #31 (**permalink**) 01-05-2007, 06:32 PM

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Originally Posted by princessdi

I know. That's the scarriest part of all. I've heard so many stories. It's very dangerous, espeically for the younger girls that really don't know any better. Quick!
Somebody call ---->

That cop looks like a sailor. And when somebody calls sailors....I think of other things.

#32 (**permalink**) 01-09-2007, 01:50 PM

I think it's his way of exploring...hehehe!

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