Reading Each Others Mail

[etali]

A friend of mine was horrified to hear that my husband and I read each others emails from time to time, and each others text messages.

If I'm in the room and my husbands phone rings, I'll take the call if he isn't there. He does the same with my phone.

Apparently, that is 'spying on each other' and my friend would be horrified if their guy did that to them, or vice-versa.

I think it's just a sign of trust. Sure, it makes it hard to order a suprise gift, but other than that, we don't have any secrets from each other so whats the problem?

I guess if we didn't have that agreement, and he suddenly started doing it, I'd be annoyed, but since we are both OK with it, I figure if it makes life easier, it makes sense...

Do you check your boyfriends / husbands mail ever? Would you have a problem if they did that to you?

[kitsch_k]

well my ex and i never attempted to read each other's messages or emails...i was pretty happy with the arrangement

[britjojo]

I had a fiancé that I hid nothing from-we would leave emails open all the time when the other was about to use the PC. There really was nothing to hide, so we were completely open.

My husband on the other hand hid everything. He would close down his laptop when I came into the room even.

[DianneMK]

I read my husbands emails,and he reads mine.I agree with Etali,its all a matter of trust.Plus we have nothing to hide.We have no problems.

[elaine130]

My dh and I don't read each other's mail, emails, phone messages, etc. We respect each other's privacy. But he comes up and looks over my shoulder as I'm typing something on the computer like to you guys or even an email, I have nothing to hide - he can read whatever he wants!

[elaine130]

My dh and I don't read each other's mail, emails, phone messages, etc. We respect each other's privacy.

[kitsch_k]

i dont have anything to hide but i still would love a little privacy with my mail and my cellphone

[littlecat123]

I don't care if my husband reads my emails or regular mail or anything. He feels the same way.

I don't go out of my way to do so but its definitely no big deal if I do or if he does with me.

I think we trust each other implicitly - neither of us have anything to hide - so why get upset?

[sbarber77]

I'm pretty sure my husband never reads my email but I really would not care if he did.

I read his occassionally because we share an email account for some things (I have my ebay account with his email because at the time you could not use a free account like hotmail for ebay) and sometimes if I am checking to see if there is anything in the inbox for me I might read a work related message from one of his colleagues. The only reason I do this is so that he does not have to remember to tell me what is going on. Sometimes his ADD gets in the way of keeping me informed.

If he wants to order a surprise gift for me he goes to a friend's house and uses her computer.

[dreamr802]

My boyfriend and I read one another's emails and text messages it's not like we have anything to hide. But yeah it doesn't bother me if there's something that I tell him not to read or something then he won't open it. We trust one another.