Opposites Attract? Or Similar Personalities?

[kitsch_k]

what do you guys think about this? do relationships work because you and your partner are completely the same? or is it better if you are complete opposites?

[Fizz]

Gee, that is a tough one. My husband and I have known each other for 20 years, in so many different ways we are alike, but we do have our differences. I don't know what makes us work, we just do. He's the love of my life, my greatest adversary and my best friend all combined. I couldn't ask for more, would be nice if he finished a project once in awhile though, lol.

[britjojo]

I honestly couldn't answer this question. I think in truth it depends on the people, not whether or not they are of the same kind. I have dated, with success (limited only of course since I am not married to them ) both like people and opposites. All I can say is that if you are too alike you can get boring and stuck in your ways.

[kitsch_k]

yeah i agree britjojo..i've met my male version but i can't imagine being with him romantically...i think if he's too much of me then what's the point of getting to know each other right?! haha..it removes the element of mystery and suspense and spontaneity..i want someone who complements me.

[Fizz]

I'm sure if I met the male version of myself I would totally hate him. Believe it or not, I have a naturally offensive personality. I don't mean to offend people and it certainly isn't my intent, but it happens all the time.

[kitsch_k]

hahha i think i understand what you mean fizz.. i can be sarcastic at times too and if my husband is as sarcastic as me then i guess we'll be headed for splitsville before we even reach our anniversary!

[DianneMK]

My husband and I are exactly alike.We have been together 7 years on July 2.I mean we like almost the same things.We laugh at stupid movies and jokes.We both have a sarcastic side and macabre sense of humor.

[kitsch_k]

Originally Posted by DianneMK

My husband and I are exactly alike.We have been together 7 years on July 2.I mean we like almost the same things.We laugh at stupid movies and jokes.We both have a sarcastic side and macabre sense of humor.

aww that's nice lucky girl! looks like you're certainly headed towards ur golden anniversary

[Fizz]

My husband has a sarcastic side to, but it helps us that he is also a bit shy. Me, I'm just out there!

[kitsch_k]

haha..i can be both sarcastic and witty..but there's a very thin line. haha a dangerous line!

[Fizz]

I know all about that dangerous line, and I seem to always cross it without knowing I'm doing it. It's speak first think later.

[kitsch_k]

Originally Posted by Fizz

I know all about that dangerous line, and I seem to always cross it without knowing I'm doing it. It's speak first think later.

SAME HERE!!!!!!! my mouth always gets me in trouble!!!

[carebear]

I think I saw the other night that it was same personalities attract more and have a better chance of staying together in the long run though opisets do get together as well but not as often.

[Fizz]

I don't know the statistics, but they had to have gotten the saying "Opposites Attract" for a reason, and I don't think they were altogether talking about magnets. I think for a couple to stay together you have to have a combination of traits that are alike and a combination of traits that are different.

[shainee]

I would say opposites attract. My husband and I were completely different when we started dating till the time we became husband and wife. But since we are always together, we started becoming like one another, so we're not opposites anymore.

[Fizz]

I've seen couples that have been together for years and years that actually start to look alike, it's really wild.

[medako]

we are opposite, but so alike - if that makes sense. I was raised in the country, on a farm. I spent my summers on tractors and working in the fields and with animals. He grew up in the city, having every modern convenience within arms reach. He was an only child, I have siblings.

But when it comes to the big things in life, we're always on the same page. Our thoughts on marriage, parenting, and life in general are not widely varied from each other. So, while we come from totally different backgrounds, we're very much alike.

[shainee]

I know what you mean medako. You start growing together and actually think the same, and sometimes other people will actually tell you that you look the same LOL.

[Fizz]

I didn't think about backgrounds, but my husband and I do have simular backgrounds up to a point. We both come from formly wealthy families, though our families didn't still have the money, they still had the attitude, if you know what I mean. He was raised by an alcoholic mother and I was raised by two alcoholic parents.

[kitsch_k]

well i guess the bottomline is, it can matter where you guys came from but what matters more is if you want to go the same place or youu have the same vision in life...

[medako]

that's exactly right. The backgrounds can vary widely, but in the end, as long as you have similar goals in life - you can make it.

[Periwinkle]

Personally, I am always attracted to people who are not like me in any way. It's just too much of me is just too boring. I get sick of it.

[dreamr802]

I think it has to be a mix of both. I don't think you should have EVERYTHING in common because it's nice to have your own hobbies and your boyfriend/girlfriend have their own hobbies and it's nice to share some hobbies...but I don't think anyone should be complete opposites or completely similar.

[Fizz]

Originally Posted by kitsch_k

well i guess the bottomline is, it can matter where you guys came from but what matters more is if you want to go the same place or youu have the same vision in life...

That was very well said Kitsch and so very true!