Sex before marriage?

[carebear]

I did but when I became a christian 3 months before I was married we abstained until our marriage night. It was so special.

I'm teaching my kids to do the same. Not only because saving yourself for your mate is so special but there's so many diseases out there now. Not like when I was young, now you can die from sex.

I say teach abstinence till marriage. What do you say?

[DianneMK]

I had sex with my current husband before we were married and if we were to have kids,I would beg them to wait.

[KeLLi]

My husband and I had sex before marriage. I kind of feel this way when we have kids, we can talk to them as much as possible about not having sex before marriage, but kids are going to do it whether we tell them to or not, but I will make sure to tell my kids that if they are going to have sex to use protection and hope they're open about it with me.

[Jewel]

I wouldn't teach my kids to abstain from sex until marriage. I would tell them to protect themselves, because they're most likely going to do it anyway. I'd rather have my children be safe than ignorant.

Also, I think that it's important to experience a sexual relationship before marriage. They should know what to expect, and while I'm not saying that they should base their entire relationship on the sexual aspects, they should know if they can deal with the other person's "habbits".

I have only had one partner, and I am married to them now, and I would hope that my children do the same, but I won't push abstinence on them. It's not for everybody.

[britjojo]

I had sex before marriage too, and I have no idea how I will handle this situation when it comes up with my daughter. She is only two so I have a few years to prepare yet, but I worry about it already.

I am not ignorant of how the world is, but at the same time I would hope that she would wait. As I said in another thread, the diseases have always been around I'm afraid-they are not, on the whole, new. We just were not told about them.

[medako]

I would prefer my child(ren) wait until marriage, but I can't stop them if they don't want to wait. It will be very important to teach (and preach) protection, protection, protection.

We didn't wait until were were married to have sex, but I can at least say that my husband is my one and only.

[Periwinkle]

Believe or not, I'm 24 and still a virgin. And I already had three boyfriends, two lasted for more than two years.

So I can say that I'm saving it.

[KeLLi]

Good for you Periwinkle! How did your boyfriends handle you telling them you were waiting?

[Gilipsie]

I applaud anyone who can abstain and stick to your principles.