Would you let him/her go to see an exotic dancer?

Gilipsie · #1 (**permalink**) 07-14-2007, 07:56 PM

Girls, would you let your guy do to see an exotic dancer? Guys, same question: Would you let your girl go to see the Chippendale dancers?

r8rpwr · #2 (**permalink**) 07-15-2007, 11:40 PM

Well, I don't "let" or not let him do anything; I'm his wife, not his mother.

That being said, we both agree that looking at another person in a sexual manner is the wrong thing to do.

KeLLi · #3 (**permalink**) 07-16-2007, 01:24 AM

I can't not 'let' him go but I can give him a piece of my mind if he did!! His dad use to have a bar right near a bunch of strip clubs and the strippers would come in after 'work' and this one girl just started giving my husband a lap dance while I was sitting there. I was ready to get up and just hit her. I think it's degrading but people say it's a 'job'. Not sure how though.

PrettyinPink · #4 (**permalink**) 07-16-2007, 04:00 PM

I agree, it's not my place to "let" him do anything. However, when it happened once in the past I didn't mind. He went after a night of drinking with the guys, it was someone else's idea. Afterwards, he came home and told me how disgusting he thought the strippers were and how he was so happy to have me.

Periwinkle · #5 (**permalink**) 07-16-2007, 07:13 PM

No, I wouldn't let him. He wouldn't ask me anyway, he'll do it secretly.

But I'll forgive him if ever he does.

kitsch_k · #6 (**permalink**) 07-17-2007, 09:43 AM

i think it's ok!! as long as his activity is limited to just WATCHING!! Hehehehe

Lila42 · #7 (**permalink**) 07-18-2007, 06:44 PM

Neither one of us thinks it's necessary. He has no desire to do that, and I would be very surprised if he did.

kitsch_k · #8 (**permalink**) 07-20-2007, 07:23 AM

lucky for you lila42!!!!!

Lila42 · #9 (**permalink**) 07-23-2007, 07:37 PM

I will say, though, that I don't really have a problem with ****, and I have no illusions that my husband hasn't looked at it on the internet. That doesn't bother me at all. A strip joint would surprise me, mostly because he doens't go out with the guys, he goes out with me and/or the kids...and there aren't any that I know of in my area..

medako · #10 (**permalink**) 07-30-2007, 02:38 PM

my husband hasn't been since his bachelor party, and it didn't bother me one bit. If he wants to go out and oogle fake girls, then whatever floats his boat.

Now, if it got to be a regular thing, I might have more of a problem with it. But I don't mind a bunch of guys getting together for a bachelor party or whatnot and going to see some strippers.

laura · #11 (**permalink**) 01-01-2008, 04:06 PM

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Originally Posted by kitsch_k

i think it's ok!! as long as his activity is limited to just WATCHING!! Hehehehe

completely agree!

Aunt Bea · #12 (**permalink**) 01-02-2008, 11:02 PM

DONT DO IT! dont let him go there!!!

I lost my husband that way. he ran off with some floosy!!!!!!!

Dont do it!!!! trust me on this. any man that wants to go to a strip bar is going to cause you heart ache. get out while you can. plan hyour escape out of the marraige.

micheal · #13 (**permalink**) 01-03-2008, 09:08 AM

My girl actually goes to the strip club with me and she enjoys it. I love her, she is one of a kind. If you are the type of woman that feels comfortable with being with your man while he watchs other women, you are awesome.

godikS · #14 (**permalink**) 01-03-2008, 12:04 PM

Back in the day, when I was slim & trim, I used to go with my husband at least once or twice a month. We had a blast! We lived in a place that had dozens of them and we had our fav's. Those girls work sooo hard, and many of them are there only to help support their kids! We've brought many of them home with us at times, and even had their kids come over on special occasions like Christmas or Thanksgiving. They are just regular people like us.

Aunt Bea · #15 (**permalink**) 01-03-2008, 01:59 PM

OMG are you serious!!!!!!!!!!?????????

arent strippers dirty? I would never want one in my home, I might catch an STD from them.

godikS · #16 (**permalink**) 01-04-2008, 12:06 AM

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Originally Posted by Aunt Bea

OMG are you serious!!!!!!!!!!?????????

arent strippers dirty? I would never want one in my home, I might catch an STD from them.

Actually they are very nice. I have only met one exotic dancer that I didn't find attractive. She was kind of a amazon looking girl if you know what I mean. She must have been close to 7' tall! She towered over me!

MHJ · #17 (**permalink**) 01-04-2008, 11:42 AM

It is best not to encourage such childisn and immature behavior in a spouse. Exotic dancing is about as silly as it gets.

godikS · #18 (**permalink**) 01-11-2008, 06:51 PM

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Originally Posted by MHJ

It is best not to encourage such childisn and immature behavior in a spouse. Exotic dancing is about as silly as it gets.

Are you kidding me? Exotic dancing is EROTIC! Try it sometimes for him and just watch the results!

anne022196 · #19 (**permalink**) 01-14-2008, 10:31 AM

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Originally Posted by Aunt Bea

DONT DO IT! dont let him go there!!!

I lost my husband that way. he ran off with some floosy!!!!!!!

Dont do it!!!! trust me on this. any man that wants to go to a strip bar is going to cause you heart ache. get out while you can. plan hyour escape out of the marraige.

you know what aunt bea if a man truly loves you no matter how beautiful and sexy they are i think thats not a big problem, and you're still the apple of his eye...

AFAIK and base from what i've red from your previous post regarding to your problem, i might say that 30-50% was also your fault why your husband leave you...

Bad Kitty · #20 (**permalink**) 01-17-2008, 03:05 PM

We don't "let" each other with anything. I wouldn't approve, but the decision to go is ultimately his. I wouldn't reproach him is he went, I would just tell him I didn't approve.

ricci · #21 (**permalink**) 01-17-2008, 06:55 PM

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Originally Posted by anne022196

you know what aunt bea if a man truly loves you no matter how beautiful and sexy they are i think thats not a big problem, and you're still the apple of his eye...

AFAIK and base from what i've red from your previous post regarding to your problem, i might say that 30-50% was also your fault why your husband leave you...

NOW we are getting somewhere!

micheal · #22 (**permalink**) 01-18-2008, 03:10 AM

Any man would love to have a woman who would allow them to go without having to worry about attitudes when they get home. It's more about the freedom. Alot of women don't carry enough confidence in within themselves to let their mate go and see exotic dancers.

raven1083 · #23 (**permalink**) 02-06-2008, 08:08 PM

of course not i dont approve my wife or my girl to see an exotic dancer.

WorkerBea · #24 (**permalink**) 02-08-2008, 08:51 PM

I've been with my man twice to see erotic dancers. It was ....welll lets' say interesting.

I must admit though that even I found myself somewhat aroused while there

hoosier ump210 · #25 (**permalink**) 02-08-2008, 08:53 PM

hi girls what's new

Aunt Bea · #26 (**permalink**) 02-09-2008, 11:31 AM

Hello Hoosier, you must be from indiana??

raven1083 · #27 (**permalink**) 02-10-2008, 06:49 PM

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Originally Posted by WorkerBea

I've been with my man twice to see erotic dancers. It was ....welll lets' say interesting.

I must admit though that even I found myself somewhat aroused while there

that was hot ! but i still dont approve my girl to see an exotic dancer.

Paula Ness · #28 (**permalink**) 02-11-2008, 12:02 PM

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Originally Posted by Gilipsie

Girls, would you let your guy do to see an exotic dancer? Guys, same question: Would you let your girl go to see the Chippendale dancers?

hell, I'd bring the camera!

life's too short

QueenBee · #29 (**permalink**) 02-11-2008, 01:40 PM

My personal opinion... it is healthy! The day you stop looking is the day you are dead.

ricci · #30 (**permalink**) 02-11-2008, 02:05 PM

Those dancers do not look healthy to me queenie.

QueenBee · #31 (**permalink**) 02-11-2008, 04:02 PM

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Originally Posted by ricci

Those dancers do not look healthy to me queenie.

No silly, it makes for a sexy healthy sex life between you and your mate... eyes only on the dancer

ricci · #32 (**permalink**) 02-11-2008, 05:30 PM

ahhh yes queenie and I must admit, I have seen a few exotic dancers myself

ricci · #33 (**permalink**) 02-11-2008, 05:32 PM

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Originally Posted by Bad Kitty

We don't "let" each other with anything. I wouldn't approve, but the decision to go is ultimately his. I wouldn't reproach him is he went, I would just tell him I didn't approve.

Has anyone seen my kitty?

I don't think she's been around here in awhile???

raven1083 · #34 (**permalink**) 02-11-2008, 07:06 PM

i really dont think it is appropriate to see an exotic dancer.

KJ · #35 (**permalink**) 04-02-2008, 11:58 PM

Well, I'm not married. But I am in a very serious relationship. I'm also a very jealous person. I really wouldn't want my boyfriend to do that. I don't think he would, but you never know. Hopefully he wouldn't want to

aehbamfan · #36 (**permalink**) 04-09-2008, 05:24 PM

Funny, we just talked about this the other day! I wouldn't care if he went, and he wouldn't care if I went. THat being said, he hasn't been since before we were engaged, and that is just because that was all of the guys he was hanging out with were going.

I wouldn't go unless it was a bachelorette party or something of the sort that I had some sort of obligation to go.

LilDonna · #37 (**permalink**) 04-28-2008, 06:03 AM

I believe that honesty and trust are the most important parts in a relationship. Saying that, I trust him that he wouldn't see an exotic dancer since I don't have that urgent feeling to see another man half naked.

What I experienced with a friend of mine was that her boyfriend - who isn't really the romantic kinda guy - ordered her some flowers on line and she found out that he did that because he had a bad feeling after seeing an exotic dancer. That's what I mean, if I talk about trust and honesty. In my opinion it's better to be honest and say that you want to go to a club with dancers than trying to be sneaky and then have a bad feeling.

raven1083 · #38 (**permalink**) 05-01-2008, 12:06 AM

well it is up to her if she like it.

irish_clover · #39 (**permalink**) 05-08-2008, 06:09 AM

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Originally Posted by micheal

Any man would love to have a woman who would allow them to go without having to worry about attitudes when they get home. It's more about the freedom. Alot of women don't carry enough confidence in within themselves to let their mate go and see exotic dancers.

Actually that's the opposite in my case. I have tons of confidence in myself. And I would be outraged if I were married or had a live in boyfriend who did this BECAUSE I have the confidence. I would wonder why he wants to look at someone else when he has someone hotter at home. I would feel insulted that he was out spending money on these types of activities when we could be out having a good time together and spending money on US..but my actual self worth wouldn't be affected if he did this. More like I would be shocked or angered.

Back to the OT. Obviously my answer to the question is a solid no..maybe because I grew up in a traditional Christian home...maybe because I have a lot of love for myself, or maybe a little of both

But that's my take on it.

Jerome · #40 (**permalink**) 05-12-2008, 10:22 PM

To answer the OP: why not!
If your girlfriend/wife fancies that and if your relationship is built on confidence I see no problem. They're men they'll never get but they get you

vincenta · #41 (**permalink**) 05-13-2008, 03:00 AM

I am lucky to have a man who I really trust and love.. I haven't tried to be in a situation like this one, but if we did encounter this I am sure both of us will be open-minded about it. I don't have the right to stop him or forbid him. We just have to make sure he knows his limits and knows what your stand on this is.. It is just a matter of knowing the limits of the relationship and of course the trust..

weezlose · #42 (**permalink**) 05-14-2008, 09:45 PM

agreed. it's just a person.

guys oogle girls on the street in broad daylight all of the time, so what's to say doing it in a strip club is any different? if he's going to wander, he's going to wander.

angelthelson · #43 (**permalink**) 05-21-2008, 09:17 PM

my hubby's a grown man, he knows what's right and wrong.

carrielulu · #44 (**permalink**) 05-23-2008, 03:01 AM

I would trust my man too...i know hes trustworthy...

but on the other hand i would feel a little self concious when he got home and saw my fat butt..

Designers Loft · #45 (**permalink**) 10-30-2008, 02:36 PM

We have been married for 20 years now and he used to go to strip bars during lunch with his co-workers. He does tell me after the fact and i do appreciate that.

I do allow my husband to go to strip bar. I trust him.

tastycakes · #46 (**permalink**) 02-02-2009, 12:22 AM

Nah.

I can't get over myself.

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