Best Friends

#1 (**permalink**) 10-17-2006, 09:02 PM

Can best friends be more than just friends. I have a best friend who is male. We have been friends since school. He would really like to be more than friends now. But I am afraid that it might destroy our friendship. Do you think this would happen? I would hate to destroy the close relationship we share.

#2 (**permalink**) 10-17-2006, 11:52 PM

I think if you gave it a shot, you would have a good chance at having a successful relationship. Best friends already know pretty much everything about eachother... they are those people that you can be yourself around, no matter what. If you like him, go for it. It would be a shame if you both liked eachother and didn't give things a try because you didn't want to ruin your friendship. What do you think would happen if you got a boyfriend... or if he got a girlfriend? You'd both be happy for eachother, but there would still be a hint of jealousy... plus you don't want to be left to wonder "what if?"

#3 (**permalink**) 10-17-2006, 11:57 PM

I think your friendship will ultimately be destroyed if you don't get together and see how things work out. Because like Kelly6785 said, there are going to be tons of jealousy issues there if you don't. Most of the time you don't realize the feelings you have until they have moved on to someone else.

Who knows, it might be the best decision you ever made!

Things will always work out how they were meant to!

#4 (**permalink**) 10-18-2006, 03:35 PM

Hmmm...is it infatuation, or deep feelings? If you feel strongly that his feelings are real, then go for it! I've known of strong romantic relationships developing from friendship.

If you don't think the feelings are "real", then maybe put it off a while. His feelings may pass.

Good luck!

#5 (**permalink**) 10-21-2006, 12:55 AM

As always there are pros and cons. Since you began by being best friends, you already know each others traits, both good and bad. I think you are the only one who can decide which way you would want this relationship to go.

#6 (**permalink**) 10-23-2006, 01:22 PM

Well I think that its a bad idea esp. if you want to remain best friends because as we all know that if something goes wrong then there goes that friendship.

#7 (**permalink**) 11-01-2006, 11:25 PM

It's a tough call. Because I don't know very many people at all who tried hooking up with a best friend, had the romance fail, and still stayed friends, let alone best friends.

erindallas · #8 (**permalink**) 11-03-2006, 11:42 PM

my male best friend and i fell for each other and tried dating, but after a while we started arguing. we realized that we could either stay together and wind up breaking up and ruining our friendship, or just go back to being friends. that's what we did and we are still the best of friends. we made the right decision, but everyone is different.

kitsch_k · #9 (**permalink**) 11-04-2006, 10:19 AM

i once read that happiness is marrying your best friend...

#10 (**permalink**) 11-04-2006, 11:58 PM

If you both are really good friends and if you think that you know eachother verywell and you both will be able to understand eachother then go ahead and tell your feelings.

#11 (**permalink**) 11-05-2006, 09:27 AM

See dont get affraid. You will not destroy the friendship because there are many relations that can not be expressed in the words.

Even lifepartners need to be good friends....

#12 (**permalink**) 11-05-2006, 02:23 PM

If you think he is your good friends who understands you then go ahead and tell your feelings you will have positive reply

kitsch_k · #13 (**permalink**) 11-06-2006, 08:45 AM

love is friendship set to music...as long as you have sparks!!!

#14 (**permalink**) 11-16-2006, 12:39 PM

if you guys have feelings for one another, go for it! being friends is the best basis for romance.

kitsch_k · #15 (**permalink**) 12-09-2006, 05:24 PM

if only we could have all best friends as boyfriends! hehe..then there would be less fights

#16 (**permalink**) 12-11-2006, 06:49 AM

Oh how I wish too kitsch. Wouldn't it be nice? The world would be a better place, heck who am i kidding hehe

kitsch_k · #17 (**permalink**) 12-11-2006, 11:58 AM

hahaha..yeah!! it's just too perfect to be real!!

#18 (**permalink**) 12-16-2006, 02:35 AM

I had a very best friend, and our friendship was awesome. Now, we're dating and it's awesome!

kitsch_k · #19 (**permalink**) 12-17-2006, 05:50 PM

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Originally Posted by princessdi

I had a very best friend, and our friendship was awesome. Now, we're dating and it's awesome!

im happy for you!!! that's a really rare thing to have...having the best of both worlds!!!

#20 (**permalink**) 01-03-2007, 06:16 AM

being best friends can be a good foundation for a deeper kind of relationship, you should not worry too much about it

#21 (**permalink**) 01-11-2007, 06:26 AM

So it seems like you're afraid to lose him as a friend? Why not give him a chance first and worry about the next thing. You are not sure of what's going to happen next unless the last minute. Who knows, you might end up marrying each other. Your fear is what's stopping you. Well, face your fears and take one day at a time girl! =)

#22 (**permalink**) 01-23-2007, 02:30 AM

that's a really nice advice blueberry, time is gold, you should not waste the time you should be spending with your best friend...as a boyfriend

#23 (**permalink**) 01-24-2007, 06:23 PM

I think you have a very good chance of it being a successful relationship. But you also have a very good chance of losing a good friendship if the relationship doesn't work out. I wish I were more help.

kitsch_k · #24 (**permalink**) 01-25-2007, 07:15 AM

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Originally Posted by blueberrycheesecake

So it seems like you're afraid to lose him as a friend? Why not give him a chance first and worry about the next thing. You are not sure of what's going to happen next unless the last minute. Who knows, you might end up marrying each other. Your fear is what's stopping you. Well, face your fears and take one day at a time girl! =)

yeah face your fears..just be ready for any consequence...

pinkbag · #25 (**permalink**) 02-24-2007, 03:05 PM

i think you should give it a chance...it may work out to be the best thing that has happened to you...but yes the other side is that if it didnt work, there are very less chances that you will be able to get back to your present relationship...but if u dont give it a try then chances are that this may also cause hassels...so go girl and give it a shot...

etali · #26 (**permalink**) 03-17-2007, 09:03 AM

I was 'friends' with my husband for a long time before we started dating. It worked for us, but I realise we took a massive risk.

I've never managed to remain friends with an ex when I broke up with them, so I guess the question is, a)Do you honestly think a romantic relationship would work, and b)Do you think you could remain friends if it didn't, or, would you be happy to part company in that instance.

angelthelson · #27 (**permalink**) 03-30-2007, 11:39 AM

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Originally Posted by kitsch_k

i once read that happiness is marrying your best friend...

oh gosh!!! i gave my hubby a small pillow to put in our car saying that same thing!!! haha!! yes, i would say that worked for me

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