Long distance relationship

#1 (**permalink**) 01-03-2007, 07:21 AM

has anyone experienced having a long distance relationship? how did you cope with it?

lcsamano · #2 (**permalink**) 01-03-2007, 11:35 PM

I have never had a long distance relationship. I have however had a relationship in which I didn't see the guy all week and only got to see him on the weekends due to our work schedules. It was really hard on us. We lasted about a year and we ended up calling it quits.

kitsch_k · #3 (**permalink**) 01-04-2007, 01:50 AM

i had one! it was hard but it really helps if both of you are committed to making it work..if both of you really go out of your way to communicate wtih each other constantly...it's also quite expensive!!!

the phone bills really are high..

#4 (**permalink**) 01-11-2007, 06:48 AM

I haven't experienced a long distance relationship yet. But if the time comes that this hapens to me, I would always get busy like concentrate on my work for several hours and when I would go home and start to sleep, that would be my time to reminisce our good and happy memories together and maybe I would call him from time to time. I would always see to it that he is never forgotten and that I will show him that I'm strong so that he will get strength from me too, like what I would be doing to him in case this long distance relationship "separates" us. And of course, pray. That's how I think I could cope up. =)

#5 (**permalink**) 01-11-2007, 09:12 AM

Me, we broke up after 2 months. We were together for 2+years and then that thing happened. It was very hard for me but I guess it was harder for him. He was the one who broke up with me. That's life.

#6 (**permalink**) 01-12-2007, 01:41 AM

My SO and I did the long-distance relationship thing for about a year. We visited each other as often as we could, we got good cell phone minute plans to talk often and we wrote lots of letters. It'll be 9 years for us in April. If you have faith and really want it to work, then it will. Remember, love conquers all.

kitsch_k · #7 (**permalink**) 01-12-2007, 11:25 PM

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Originally Posted by SO_FEMME

My SO and I did the long-distance relationship thing for about a year. We visited each other as often as we could, we got good cell phone minute plans to talk often and we wrote lots of letters. It'll be 9 years for us in April. If you have faith and really want it to work, then it will. Remember, love conquers all.

i believe in you and your relationship girl!!!

it's expensive and hard but if you love that person enough you would do anything

#8 (**permalink**) 01-20-2007, 08:20 AM

9 years! and you went through long distance relationship to boot. that's really quite rare. i hope things will continue to turn out well for you

kitsch_k · #9 (**permalink**) 01-24-2007, 07:33 AM

yeah..i wish you guys all the best...

i really hope this relationship ends well for you

#10 (**permalink**) 01-24-2007, 06:08 PM

I have never had a long distance relationship; and I don't plan on it. I think having that level of trust would be hard, since you don't have any way of knowing what that other person is doing. But then again, I dont' know b/c I have never had one.

pinkbag · #11 (**permalink**) 02-24-2007, 03:10 PM

i had a long distance relationship with my husband for some time in the beginning of our affair..am really thankful for the internet which actually helped us a lot in keeping in touch..phones bills would have just killed it..as both of us were in college at that time..but fortunately for me ...he came back after 5 months and here we are living happily ever after...

#12 (**permalink**) 02-25-2007, 09:47 PM

My husband and I had a long distance relationship for the first 2 years we were together. He was in the military in Kansas and I live in PA. It was definitely hard, but thank goodness for the internet!! That was a big part of our relationship, on top of the not so cheap phone bills!

You definitely need to have patience and A LOT of trust for eachother!

kitsch_k · #13 (**permalink**) 02-27-2007, 09:30 AM

i really admire you pradaprincess..you were able to make it work..that must have been really hard...

angelthelson · #14 (**permalink**) 03-30-2007, 11:53 AM

i also experienced that. i was in the philippines, (imagine that!!!) and he was in san francisco sent by his employer to be a consultant for 6 mos. he calls me everyday and yes he went home on the day of my bday coz he promised to be home on my special day. and also when we first arrived here in the states, he was asked by his employer to stay in NJ for a month and i stayed at VA. he came back to VA for a few wks then was sent to WI. i am left again at VA for 4 mos. and now we are together and he will never leave me again =)

kitsch_k · #15 (**permalink**) 04-04-2007, 08:48 AM

wow angelthelson u went through a lot..im really glad that u guys are ok and together now

angelthelson · #16 (**permalink**) 04-04-2007, 09:55 AM

yeah i am soo glad kitsch! we really love each other and distance is not an obstacle for us

kitsch_k · #17 (**permalink**) 04-05-2007, 09:16 AM

well...as they say...distance makes the heart grow fonder!

girly2 · #18 (**permalink**) 04-05-2007, 02:06 PM

Angel - you are both so blessed to have each other! You're a beautiful catch for him and he is your knight in shining armor

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Originally Posted by angelthelson

i also experienced that. i was in the philippines, (imagine that!!!) and he was in san francisco sent by his employer to be a consultant for 6 mos. he calls me everyday and yes he went home on the day of my bday coz he promised to be home on my special day. and also when we first arrived here in the states, he was asked by his employer to stay in NJ for a month and i stayed at VA. he came back to VA for a few wks then was sent to WI. i am left again at VA for 4 mos. and now we are together and he will never leave me again =)

angelthelson · #19 (**permalink**) 04-05-2007, 07:26 PM

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Originally Posted by girly2

Angel - you are both so blessed to have each other! You're a beautiful catch for him and he is your knight in shining armor

awwwww, that's so sweet thanks a lot

girly2 · #20 (**permalink**) 04-05-2007, 08:21 PM

I must say that I am no angel, literally, or even figuratively like our Angel who started this thread!

When I was starting my soph year in college (19) the most gorgeous and wonderful Irish guy I'd ever laid eyes on (and frankly, I never thought I could be in his league) asked me out and we immediately fell in love!

For the first time, I thought I could marry this guy! We were happy together for Fall, Spring and Summer semesters - sigh! He was voted "Best Boyfriend" on campus by a bunch of sororities, too!

Well, there was a lot of turmoil happening in my family and I had to return home and transfer to an in-state university instead.

My bf and I tried to have a long distance relationship, called like crazy, wrote letters (this was waaaay before email!) and he even told me we could have an "open" relationship.

I ended up getting a part time job at a mall and made new friends and cheated on him. I don't want to make too many excuses but I was really insecure and never really fully believed that I was The One for him, altho he was the one for me! I was insecure, immature and commitment-phobic. I hurt him so badly that when he was willing to forgive and get back together, I had to end it. I felt he deserved better.

Well, I was 21 then and have dated other guys since but never cheated again (nor tolerated being the cheatee) and I never had another long distance relationship or dated someone who was "GUD" (Geographically Un-Desireable).

Angel, you have amazing maturity and loyalty and integrity! Long distance love is difficult, lonely, frustrating and expensive to boot. But if you can really appreciate what you have (the grass is NEVER greener elsewhere, in fact the other side's probably a buncha weeds!) then you will build a love of a lifetime!

kitsch_k · #21 (**permalink**) 04-07-2007, 06:10 AM

last year...me and three of my friends were in long distance relationships..this year...we're all SINGLE.

angelthelson · #22 (**permalink**) 04-07-2007, 11:21 AM

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Originally Posted by girly2

I must say that I am no angel, literally, or even figuratively like our Angel who started this thread!

When I was starting my soph year in college (19) the most gorgeous and wonderful Irish guy I'd ever laid eyes on (and frankly, I never thought I could be in his league) asked me out and we immediately fell in love!

For the first time, I thought I could marry this guy! We were happy together for Fall, Spring and Summer semesters - sigh! He was voted "Best Boyfriend" on campus by a bunch of sororities, too!

Well, there was a lot of turmoil happening in my family and I had to return home and transfer to an in-state university instead.

My bf and I tried to have a long distance relationship, called like crazy, wrote letters (this was waaaay before email!) and he even told me we could have an "open" relationship.

I ended up getting a part time job at a mall and made new friends and cheated on him. I don't want to make too many excuses but I was really insecure and never really fully believed that I was The One for him, altho he was the one for me! I was insecure, immature and commitment-phobic. I hurt him so badly that when he was willing to forgive and get back together, I had to end it. I felt he deserved better.

Well, I was 21 then and have dated other guys since but never cheated again (nor tolerated being the cheatee) and I never had another long distance relationship or dated someone who was "GUD" (Geographically Un-Desireable).

Angel, you have amazing maturity and loyalty and integrity! Long distance love is difficult, lonely, frustrating and expensive to boot. But if you can really appreciate what you have (the grass is NEVER greener elsewhere, in fact the other side's probably a buncha weeds!) then you will build a love of a lifetime!

i understand what you have to go through, but ohh, why didn't you give it another shot? oh well, i guess you're not meant to be together

coz if you are, then he's the one you're married with... but then again God has ways to lead us to the right person... but in my case, i love him so much never mind him being scrooge and it's hard to find a good man. yes there are a lot of guys out there but the good ones are hard to find and am so lucky to have one, that's why i never let go of him =)

angelthelson · #23 (**permalink**) 04-07-2007, 11:22 AM

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Originally Posted by kitsch_k

last year...me and three of my friends were in long distance relationships..this year...we're all SINGLE.

hahaha!! really? well now, you have a lot of time to date and select

britjojo · #24 (**permalink**) 04-13-2007, 04:44 AM

I had an extremely successful long distance relationship for 18 months, that involved me visiting him or him coming to me every other weekend. We called all the time and wrote too.

After 18 months we moved in together in the same uni town. The relationship lasted four years altogether.

etali · #25 (**permalink**) 04-15-2007, 09:53 AM

I had a brief long distance relationship once, but it wasn't serious, and it broke up because the guy was really clingy - I think the distance freaked him it more than it did me.

I think they can work if you're honest and open with each other and make the effort to make it work, but in my case it would have failed even if we'd lived close together.

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