Need input on reviving a 20+ year marraige.

[crimson]

I am interested on any suggestions you might have on
how to revive a marriage of 20+ years, that is not bad,
just dull. I have read all the books and magazines,
and can't afford an exotic trip, much less find the time
away from home and work.
Just wondering what others might have tried.

[kitsch_k]

hmm...have u tried doing the first things you did as a couple? maybe taking care of your children has worn u guys out and it's been a long time since you had alone time just the two of you

[micheal]

Sex is the key, I will be the first one to tell you that. Sex Sex SEX and more of it.

[crystal1]

Micheal you are right, good sex, hot passionate love making will bring you two closer together. It's not a secret, It's a fact. You guess need some tlc.

[Gilipsie]

After so long of being married you get used to doing the same things. Have you guys tried adding extra spice to your love life?

[QueenBee]

I have tried and I am not getting anywhere! I am about ready for phone sex! After being sneered at for wanting a toy to excite the bedroom or some new gel .... I am a good lover but what do you do with a guy who won't change his ways!

[Bad Kitty]

Originally Posted by QueenBee

I have tried and I am not getting anywhere! I am about ready for phone sex! After being sneered at for wanting a toy to excite the bedroom or some new gel .... I am a good lover but what do you do with a guy who won't change his ways!

Go buy the toy anyway, get sexy undies if you want to, call him groaning on the other side of the phone and see how he reacts. Drop the kids off to spend the night with grandparents or send them to a friends house and light every candle in the house. Feed him a decadent dessert and dissappear to your bedroom.

Go shopping for a sexy perfume and hot lingerie... Just do it, don't seek approval beforehand. Get a haircut and a fresh face of make up, he will notice whether he wants to or not. He may say he likes same old you, but every man loves it when his lady suddenly becomes his sexy new girlfriend.

Try it and report back with your findings.

[raven1083]

i suggest that you two should go to place you have been before were you build lasting memory. For example go to place were you two first met or go to place were you and your husband been dreaming like a nice and romantic place.

[ricci]

Originally Posted by crimson

I am interested on any suggestions you might have on
how to revive a marriage of 20+ years, that is not bad,
just dull. I have read all the books and magazines,
and can't afford an exotic trip, much less find the time
away from home and work.
Just wondering what others might have tried.

Crimson, it's been nearly 4 months since your post here... What did you try and how's it going?

I'd suggest shaving.. It seems to be all the rage for sparking a couple?

[ricci]

follow bad kitty's roar and DO it! make him jealous with the toys!

Originally Posted by Bad Kitty

Go buy the toy anyway, get sexy undies if you want to, call him groaning on the other side of the phone and see how he reacts. Drop the kids off to spend the night with grandparents or send them to a friends house and light every candle in the house. Feed him a decadent dessert and dissappear to your bedroom.

Go shopping for a sexy perfume and hot lingerie... Just do it, don't seek approval beforehand. Get a haircut and a fresh face of make up, he will notice whether he wants to or not. He may say he likes same old you, but every man loves it when his lady suddenly becomes his sexy new girlfriend.

Try it and report back with your findings.