Younger or Older?

#1 (**permalink**) 01-09-2007, 02:33 PM

Which do you prefer? They say those younger than you are more insecure, more demanding, and sometimes childish, is this true? While those who are older are much mature, understanding, and responsible? What do you think?

Is your partner younger or older than you?

kitsch_k · #2 (**permalink**) 01-11-2007, 03:06 AM

my boyfriend's older..which is good because he knows how to handle my immature whims...

#3 (**permalink**) 01-13-2007, 09:40 PM

My husband is quite a bit older then I am, but it works perfectly for us... We're at the same level for the most part except for kids. He's ready I'm not!

#4 (**permalink**) 01-20-2007, 08:11 AM

i prefer someone older because as you said, they are more mature and understanding. i believe that also but a younger person would also be more idealistic and this is good for any relationship

kitsch_k · #5 (**permalink**) 01-23-2007, 11:30 AM

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Originally Posted by mrsdjray

My husband is quite a bit older then I am, but it works perfectly for us... We're at the same level for the most part except for kids. He's ready I'm not!

that's a common scenario these days..girls are more hesitant!

#6 (**permalink**) 01-24-2007, 06:18 PM

I pretty much agree with everyone here; I prefer older; they are more mature!

kitsch_k · #7 (**permalink**) 01-25-2007, 07:16 AM

its true what they say..women mature faster..so its always a good idea to get an older guy

#8 (**permalink**) 02-01-2007, 08:07 PM

kitsch, yes that's true for sure.
I think so, but several men I know agreed on that too.

But of course, there are always exceptions.

My boyfriend is 9 years older than me. It's not something I really wanted, but boys of my own age were indeed very childish. And I just felt in love with him

It has cons and pros... so not really sure what's better.

rox · #9 (**permalink**) 02-12-2007, 06:36 PM

well. my bf is 31 years older than me....

but we love each other very much. and have been together for 3 years.
compared to the boyfriends my age..its much more easier to communicate with him.

ALOT MORE easier...

kitsch_k · #10 (**permalink**) 02-13-2007, 09:09 AM

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Originally Posted by rox

well. my bf is 31 years older than me....

but we love each other very much. and have been together for 3 years.
compared to the boyfriends my age..its much more easier to communicate with him.

ALOT MORE easier...

really? good for you dear!!!

pinkbag · #11 (**permalink**) 02-14-2007, 06:11 AM

my husband is just 2.5 months older that me..and we share an excellent relationship...except for a few petty things....but i sure agree that older guys are more mature and better able at handling girls younger than them then the guys who are younger....

rox · #12 (**permalink**) 02-15-2007, 01:13 AM

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Originally Posted by kitsch_k

really? good for you dear!!!

wow im so happy the encouragement kitsch!

--seriously alot of people are against it..and think im weird..or hes perverted..or whatever.
very rarely do people compliment us.

rox · #13 (**permalink**) 02-15-2007, 01:14 AM

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Originally Posted by mrsdjray

My husband is quite a bit older then I am, but it works perfectly for us... We're at the same level for the most part except for kids. He's ready I'm not!

what are your ages if i may ask?

kitsch_k · #14 (**permalink**) 02-15-2007, 03:50 AM

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Originally Posted by rox

wow im so happy the encouragement kitsch!

--seriously alot of people are against it..and think im weird..or hes perverted..or whatever.
very rarely do people compliment us.

hey if you're happy...stay with him! those who are against it are not the ones in the relationship anyway..they have no right to tell u otherwise.

pinkbag · #15 (**permalink**) 02-16-2007, 05:51 AM

Rox i also think that if you are happy with this guy then stick with him...what matters is your happiness....am sure people will find some fault with any other guy u find as well...as that is what they are there for...

#16 (**permalink**) 02-18-2007, 03:50 PM

My husband is older which works perfect for me.

#17 (**permalink**) 02-21-2007, 08:40 PM

My husband is 5 years older than me. I've never dated anyone younger. I am going to be 25 and he is turning 30 this year.

etali · #18 (**permalink**) 03-17-2007, 09:08 AM

I've had partners that were older, and ones the same age, never younger though.

My husband is older than me by 9 years, but honestly, you wouldn't guess it - we have the same interests and goals in life (and none of those are traditionally 'older' things like starting a family, settling down) - age is just a number as far as I am concerned.

bagcrazy · #19 (**permalink**) 03-17-2007, 07:57 PM

Age is just a number. It's the maturity level that's the concern. My ex-husband was 5 years older than me, but I was the muture, responsible one. Even now, he just hasn't grown up (mutured) and I've been around him for the last 13 years!! Everyone is different. I dated someone who was 3 years younger than me, and we were a great fit, both somewhat at the same maturity level (unfortunately, 4 months into the relationship, he passed away from a snowmoile accident).

angelthelson · #20 (**permalink**) 03-18-2007, 12:56 AM

oh so sorry to hear that bagcrazy, but yeah my hubby is 4 yrs older than me im 24 he's 28 but oh my, he is so mature, focused with his life and what he wants and knows his priorities and very patient esp with me LOL! eversince i had a bf, the guy's older than me. but he's my 3rd but 1st serious bf and now, he's my last and my hubby

bagcrazy · #21 (**permalink**) 03-19-2007, 10:02 PM

Thanks, it was very, very sad, but you learn to cope as time goes by. Your hubby sounds great, I'm happy for you!!

elaine130 · #22 (**permalink**) 03-20-2007, 11:38 AM

Hey all -

I met my true love seven years ago when I turned 31 and he was 45. Altho I do wish I had met him years before, to spare me from all the heartache I experienced (and the heartache I also gave) with wrong relationships, the timing was perfect because he and I did our dating thing, career thing and when we met, we were ready for commitment and family.

It's been my experience out here in the Northeast (NY, NJ, PA) that 20's are the new adolescence and 30's are the new 20's for a majority of young adults. In my opinion, today's culture, including media and music and videos and even sexy fashion trends, promotes casual sex and live-in relationships and friends with benefits (think Sex and the City, Friends). I'm not saying it's a bad thing, because it was fun dating and being single and finding yourself as well as learning about different guys, like what principles/traits mean a lot to you and what you can let slide (we all have our quirks). I don't regret marrying later because at least I know what's out there (guys I dated were not husband-material and certainly NOT father material!) and I believe I cherish my husband all the more. He is an amazing partner, lover and father. I'd do everything in my life all over again if it meant I'd still end up with my hubby - good, bad and fugly!

So although having married an older man worked for me, I think it's all about each individual person's own timing and readiness for commitment. Some men AND women are just not mentally ready for marriage, kids, family etc., due to immaturity or personal baggage or just having all the free milk they want. I'm sure there are gals out there in their 40's who don't want commitment (some are content with having affairs or happy being divorced and free) and there are guys in their 20's who are ready to marry, settle down and be a father.

Different strokes for different folks!

kitsch_k · #23 (**permalink**) 03-20-2007, 12:51 PM

that's a very inspiring story elaine! thanks for telling us about it. im in my mid20s and im not yet ready to settle but i know someday i will be

and i hope i find the right partner

kitsch_k · #24 (**permalink**) 03-20-2007, 12:52 PM

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Originally Posted by bagcrazy

Age is just a number. It's the maturity level that's the concern. My ex-husband was 5 years older than me, but I was the muture, responsible one. Even now, he just hasn't grown up (mutured) and I've been around him for the last 13 years!! Everyone is different. I dated someone who was 3 years younger than me, and we were a great fit, both somewhat at the same maturity level (unfortunately, 4 months into the relationship, he passed away from a snowmoile accident).

im so sorry to hear about the accident bagcrazy

bagcrazy · #25 (**permalink**) 03-24-2007, 11:27 AM

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Originally Posted by kitsch_k

im so sorry to hear about the accident bagcrazy

Thanks, it's very sad.

kitsch_k · #26 (**permalink**) 03-26-2007, 01:13 PM

im newly single after dating a guy 2 yrs older..do you guys think its a good idea to date a younger guy? a year younger? hehe

elaine130 · #27 (**permalink**) 03-26-2007, 02:17 PM

Kitsch - Go for it! Have fun and think with your head as well as feel with your heart. I think guys are who they are and you can't really change them. So if he wants to be serious and have 6 children now, or maybe if he wants to casually date and marry in 10 years and still not have children... then just listen, take note and see if HE fits into YOUR life's current direction. Most of all, never LOSE yourself in another guy! Stay on course with your own passion and career...

angelthelson · #28 (**permalink**) 03-26-2007, 09:14 PM

yeah i agree with elaine =) it doesn't matter what matters is, the chemistry you both have LOL! seriously, go for it =)

DianneMK · #29 (**permalink**) 04-06-2007, 05:22 PM

My husband and I have a 14 year age difference.I am older.I am 44,he will be 31 next week.It doesn't matter to me the difference in our age because after all,age is just a number.I didn't fall in love with his age,I fell in love with him.

kitsch_k · #30 (**permalink**) 04-07-2007, 06:06 AM

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Originally Posted by DianneMK

I didn't fall in love with his age,I fell in love with him.

awwww..that's so sweet. dianne hopefully i get as lucky as you!

britjojo · #31 (**permalink**) 04-13-2007, 04:50 AM

I have had partners both older, and younger than me, and I can tell you that from my experiences, it is down to the person not the age as to what is better. Older people can be more mature, but also more stuck in the mud, fuddy duddies. Younger people can be immature to a point but also more spontaneous and fun.

It really depends what you are looking for-especially since some young people I know are TOTAL stick in the muds, and some older people are a ton of fun.

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