Falling in Love Over the Internet

#1 (**permalink**) 01-09-2007, 02:41 PM

Can you fall for someone on the internet?

kitsch_k · #2 (**permalink**) 01-11-2007, 03:05 AM

hmm..honestly..its a big NO...

erindallas · #3 (**permalink**) 01-14-2007, 04:18 PM

Well, lots of people have met over the Internet...but I don't think I would do it.

#4 (**permalink**) 01-14-2007, 04:34 PM

I met my husband on the internet, we've been together now for 4 years married for 1 1/2! I've known a few people who it has worked for, but for every success there is 50 that don't work out I think.

#5 (**permalink**) 01-16-2007, 05:57 AM

i would consider it but i should be able to verify that he says who he claims to be...like we should live in the same area or know a common friend or something

#6 (**permalink**) 01-19-2007, 05:11 PM

I don't think you could fall in love with someone. Maybe with the idea of what they portray themselves to be.

pinkbag · #7 (**permalink**) 01-19-2007, 05:54 PM

it is very much possible. though for me the lines are closed as i am married but i know a couple of friends who met their now husbands on the internet and are happily married now.

#8 (**permalink**) 01-20-2007, 08:07 AM

your friends are really lucky, it would be interesting to meet a guy on the internet and see if they are really what they appear to be. but i'm kinda wary of some sites though i think that some websites secure your privacy well enough if you want them to

kitsch_k · #9 (**permalink**) 02-20-2007, 10:50 AM

my friend met her husband thru the net and it isnt turning out to be what she expectd...it's really dangerous..djray is one lucky girl

britjojo · #10 (**permalink**) 02-21-2007, 02:49 AM

I was one of the 50 that failed. I loved him, for sure. But when we married he changed. That can happen in any situation of course, but I had immigrated to be with him...... Then he got violent and I had to leave for the safety of myself and our baby.

So I believe that love online is possible, but you have to tread incredibly carefully.

kitsch_k · #11 (**permalink**) 02-21-2007, 09:02 AM

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Originally Posted by britjojo

I was one of the 50 that failed. I loved him, for sure. But when we married he changed. That can happen in any situation of course, but I had immigrated to be with him...... Then he got violent and I had to leave for the safety of myself and our baby.

So I believe that love online is possible, but you have to tread incredibly carefully.

i admire your courage for having done that in the first place...that's so traumatizing..i hope things are better for you now...

r8rpwr · #12 (**permalink**) 02-24-2007, 10:07 PM

I never dated anyone I met online, but I know plenty of success stories, and I also have a lot of friends who I originally met online.

So you just have to take care and get to know the person (the REAL person), same as any other way of beginning a relationship.

#13 (**permalink**) 02-25-2007, 09:49 PM

I'm sure it would be possible. I know I wouldn't do it because it is kind of risky. I don't think that it is AS different from randomly meeting someone at a bar or some where else in public though.

kitsch_k · #14 (**permalink**) 02-27-2007, 09:29 AM

well i havent ever done this so i can't judge...

LizF · #15 (**permalink**) 03-04-2007, 01:20 AM

Internet dating is pretty popular in our generation. However, I think it speaks more to arguments that the bar scene has become too predatory and that people our age can't communicate. But, I'm not one to talk, because I'm content being single right now.

KeLLi · #16 (**permalink**) 03-30-2007, 03:17 PM

I don't think you can fall in love over the internet, maybe lust.

kitsch_k · #17 (**permalink**) 04-08-2007, 03:26 PM

hmm some people do fall in love...those are the lucky ones...but there are more unlucky ones..i guess they only 'fell' inlove because of boredom and the internet was the only diversion they have?

britjojo · #18 (**permalink**) 04-13-2007, 04:42 AM

I don't believe that there is such a thing as being able to know the 'real' person online. I was friends with my husband for four years before we even met-I thought that after all that time that there could be nothing but this kind and gentle man that I knew.

I couldn't have been more wrong-duped for four years.

etali · #19 (**permalink**) 04-15-2007, 09:56 AM

One of my friends has been dating a girl for a couple of years now, and they met on a dating site.

I think it can happen, but you have to be careful, there are lots of strange people out there.

britjojo · #20 (**permalink**) 04-21-2007, 03:15 AM

I think that dating sites are no different than any other blind date situation. You take it slow and see if you are compatible. The big problems come with situations like mine, where you are separated by thousands of miles, and everything other than the wedding basically happen on line. We were only in the same country for six weeks before we married. That is just not enough.

dreamr802 · #21 (**permalink**) 07-12-2007, 08:45 PM

My boyfriend and I met online and we were friends for 2 years online before I started to fall for him and he flew to FL to meet me and I fell in love with him the moment I saw him...and we are a success. We will be together for 2 years next month and we are going to get engaged when I finish with college and he even moved to FL to be with me.

KeLLi · #22 (**permalink**) 07-12-2007, 10:08 PM

My husband and I met online too. But what I thought they meant was having a relationship 'online'. If you meet off line then yeah you can fall in love but if you have never met this person and just talk on the computer I don't think you can fall in love.

Gilipsie · #23 (**permalink**) 07-12-2007, 11:09 PM

It is a great way to start a friendship that can lead to love but it can also be dangerous. There are the obvious pitfalls but I am having fun with someone now over the net and am thinking of meeting.

KeLLi · #24 (**permalink**) 07-12-2007, 11:47 PM

Good luck with it and please, be safe!! Meet in a public place or take someone with you.

Gilipsie · #25 (**permalink**) 07-14-2007, 08:13 PM

You can meet over the Internet, but I think that is a bad ideal Falling in love with someone you never met in person is definitely a bad idea.

Lila42 · #26 (**permalink**) 07-23-2007, 08:25 PM

Meeting over the internet is fine. But that isn't love. That takes time. If you find someone you like, go out on dates. Take your time!! There is no need to rush..after you get to know someone there is no telling what can develop. It's the falling "in love" via the internet alone that I have a problem with .That's not real.

medako · #27 (**permalink**) 07-30-2007, 03:03 PM

My husband and I met online, but that's where the internet romance stopped. Actually, we just met up because we'd been talking for a couple of years already. We started dating shortly thereafter.

I really don't know that it's possible to fall in love with someone online. Sure, you can love certain parts of their personality and whatnot, but I just don't see it as "love" without dating and getting to know each other in person.

sacback · #28 (**permalink**) 10-05-2007, 04:05 AM

Of course you can as long as the person you are falling for is being honest with you.

micheal · #29 (**permalink**) 10-29-2007, 11:10 PM

I have had many lovers off the internet and I don't mean seuxally. Just people who I have fallen for.

crystal1 · #30 (**permalink**) 11-02-2007, 03:52 PM

I have always preferred to fall for someone I met face to face. People lie on the net so you know how that goes.

Gilipsie · #31 (**permalink**) 11-09-2007, 02:18 PM

I don't know because when you are over the internet thigns happen. Now what if you fall in love and then they fall in love with someone else outside the internet, then you are stuck sick over someone you never met.

Rebecca · #32 (**permalink**) 01-14-2008, 11:06 AM

Yes... it is possible.... I have experience in that....

ricci · #33 (**permalink**) 01-14-2008, 04:35 PM

werent those freaks in Texas some internet lovers? the baby grace parents?

Aunt Bea · #34 (**permalink**) 01-14-2008, 10:02 PM

Did Tony Romo and Jessica Simpson meet on the internet?

Bad Kitty · #35 (**permalink**) 01-17-2008, 03:02 PM

I dunno, I don't think in LOVE, really... Love is multi faceted and having it only online seems a bit hollow, but who knows.

I do however, think meeting people online is very efficient. If I were single, I would likely use the interwebz to date and meet people.

ricci · #36 (**permalink**) 02-01-2008, 05:22 PM

something about this thread

Girls, as far as we have come and yet I see a real weakness in women these days! .

Just like women stepping over one another to vote for hillary... are you kidding me? She's the worst example of a strong woman, this world has seen in a long time... Internet dating... How low must your self esteem be?

RARRRRRRRRRRRR!!!!!!!!!!! Just had to get it off my chest.

Bad Kitty · #37 (**permalink**) 02-01-2008, 07:14 PM

I dunno Ricci, I think it just thins the herd a little bit when ou can look through all the selection at once and weed out the weak.

raven1083 · #38 (**permalink**) 02-05-2008, 08:15 PM

for me i think it is possible, because falling in love is called falling in love because you dont choose who, when and where, to fall you just simply fall that is why it is called falling in love and not choosing or looking in love.

ricci · #39 (**permalink**) 02-06-2008, 04:09 PM

ya but raven, what are you going to do? Fall into your computer screen?

raven1083 · #40 (**permalink**) 02-06-2008, 06:32 PM

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Originally Posted by ricci

ya but raven, what are you going to do? Fall into your computer screen?

not exactly fall into computer screen but fall in love with the person that is in the other end of the computer. what factors does a person need to fall for a person in an actual life?

for me it is

caring
sweetness
thoughtfulness
sweet words
good communication

with this factor we fall for some and this factors can be done using the internet that is why i said that it is possible to fall in love with a real person using the internet even if distance counts as a hindrance to your relationship and can be obtain by the use of internet.

ricci · #41 (**permalink**) 02-07-2008, 11:59 AM

oh not me sister, I cannot tell for sure about ANY of the criteria you mentioned by typing it up on the computer screen.. I mean... what do you think of me?

raven1083 · #42 (**permalink**) 02-07-2008, 09:16 PM

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Originally Posted by ricci

oh not me sister, I cannot tell for sure about ANY of the criteria you mentioned by typing it up on the computer screen.. I mean... what do you think of me?

you might have a point that you can never really know the person unless you meet her/him personally or be with him/her in real life.

Aunt Bea · #43 (**permalink**) 02-07-2008, 09:59 PM

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Originally Posted by ricci

oh not me sister, I cannot tell for sure about ANY of the criteria you mentioned by typing it up on the computer screen.. I mean... what do you think of me?

I think your a gem Ricci!!! I would like to meet you and share a cup of coffee for some laughs! and girl talk!

ricci · #44 (**permalink**) 02-09-2008, 09:00 AM

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Originally Posted by Aunt Bea

I think your a gem Ricci!!! I would like to meet you and share a cup of coffee for some laughs! and girl talk!

well there you have it. Aunt bea fell in love with me on a computer screen

Aunt Bea · #45 (**permalink**) 02-09-2008, 11:30 AM

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Originally Posted by ricci

well there you have it. Aunt bea fell in love with me on a computer screen

Oh you silly goose! stop that! your going to give these girls the worng idea bout me!!!

ricci · #46 (**permalink**) 02-11-2008, 02:28 PM

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Originally Posted by Aunt Bea

Oh you silly goose! stop that! your going to give these girls the worng idea bout me!!!

he he! It's easy to do here isn't it?

seriously though raven. It could simply be that my age group doesn't feel the same things that you feel when you read someone's post on a website. We just cannot feel it.

I've really fallen for Laura here as well as Bea and anne and romy and marco too really, but I know it's not real, it's just a computer screen, you know? And I think that's what's so fun about it!!

raven1083 · #47 (**permalink**) 02-11-2008, 07:10 PM

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Originally Posted by ricci

he he! It's easy to do here isn't it?

seriously though raven. It could simply be that my age group doesn't feel the same things that you feel when you read someone's post on a website. We just cannot feel it.

I've really fallen for Laura here as well as Bea and anne and romy and marco too really, but I know it's not real, it's just a computer screen, you know? And I think that's what's so fun about it!!

in that point of view i agree with you.

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