Who here is married and at what age?

[luvbunnies42]

I was wondering who all here is married? What age did you get married? With the divorce rate at 50% it made me curious about who really stays together. I've been critized from some people for getting married young. I got married a little less then a month before I turned 20. However, everyone in my family has been divorced at least once and my relationship has lasted almost as long as my parents total relationship. So, will someone share their experiance with me.

[rusty2rusty]

Okay, I'll bite on your question. I have been married twice now.

My first marriage. I was 20 years old with a one month old son. That marriage ended in divorce because of abuse. I do think we were both way to young to get married. It was hi second and my first.

It took me many years later to marry my current husband. I have been with him for 13 years now. But only married for the last 3 years. Yes, the first marriage put a big damper on me wanting to tie the knot again. But I figure if a man can put up with me for 9 years, a son from a previous marriage, and two kids together. we had better get married before I changed my mind again.

It wasn't that we didn't love each other. In both marriages the love was there. I also believe love had nothing to do with the divorce.

[luvbunnies42]

Thank you for your response Rusty2Rusty.
I understand how a bad relationship and divorce could put a damper on wanting to get married again. I haven't been through that myself but have with my family. My parents had a bad divorce and my little brother and I were drug in and out of courts for custody battles and split living arraingements.It made me think twice too. I was fearful to be married. I was more fearful that I'd turn out like my parents. It took a long time for me to realize I'm not them.

[rusty2rusty]

I to come from a broken marriage. my dad decided to cheat with a woman he worked with. so, my parents split when I was real little. Than that woman became my stepmpther......not a good things because she treated her daughter and my half brother than she did me or my two real sisters.

I can relate. I think that is why I was easily married my first husband. I wanted someone to love me. Which I didn't feel growing up with my dad and stepmother. I knew the abuse. So marring abuse came as second nature. Til one day I woke up and realize...hey, families don't live like this and got out of my first marriage.

[angelthelson]

i am 23 when i got married, now i'm turning 26

[ozzie]

I was a young 20 years old when I got married. I've been married 41 years now! whew! It hasn't been easy either. lol. If I had it to do over again I would wait till about 25 before I got married. We would have been more mature and had more money too.

[aehbamfan]

I was 28 when I got married, and I've been married for three years now. I do believe that most people aren't ready for the commitment that marriage requires at the age of 20, but that doesn't mean that there aren't some people who are ready!

Marriage takes a lot of work and maturity, and as you can tell by the divorce rate too many people aren't willing to put in the effort.

[luvbunnies42]

Originally Posted by aehbamfan

I was 28 when I got married, and I've been married for three years now. I do believe that most people aren't ready for the commitment that marriage requires at the age of 20, but that doesn't mean that there aren't some people who are ready!

Marriage takes a lot of work and maturity, and as you can tell by the divorce rate too many people aren't willing to put in the effort.

I agree with that. I've also seen woman that are older and less mature with at least 4 failed marriages under their belts. They act as if it's a game and keep going for the type of man they say they don't want.

I consider myself different then alot of other people my age though. Starting with the fact that my closest friends are almost all 10 years older then me. I also was with my now hubby since we were 16.We also took a 2 year engagement before we got married.I wanted to make sure I was ready.

[aehbamfan]

It sounds as though you are very mature for your age Luvbunny and really have put a lot of thought into what marriage entails! I think you have a happy future ahead of you!

[luvbunnies42]

Originally Posted by aehbamfan

It sounds as though you are very mature for your age Luvbunny and really have put a lot of thought into what marriage entails! I think you have a happy future ahead of you!

Thank you. I do hope we do. We've been through a lot at a young age and made it through well. I think it helps to because we are both from divorced families.We are also both the first born.We are both determined and strive hard to make everything we do work. We arque like every couple does but if we didn't I don't think we'd be normal. I guess it's all about how you approach the arquement and deal with things.Honesty and communication are two of the most important things in a marriage. I hope to always have both.

[raven1083]

23 years old when i get married pretty though but it is all worth it.

[DianneMK]

I married my husband when I was 38 and my husband was 24.

[Perfumes Lover]

I guess I will win if it's a competition.

I was 22 when married and now I am 36... 14 Years with My sweet heart. And wish to spend many 14s more

[KellyGal]

I was 35, he was 43. First marriage for both of us.

We are still going strong after 10 years. Neither of us wanted to settle just to be married for our families' or societies sake or demands.

We've been through hell and back; he lost a kidney and almost died, I've had three IVFs and 8 miscarriages and we are still without children.

In spite of all that, he is the love of my life and vice versa. We cherish every moment.

Sigh.

[cheese157]

I was married at 22 for the first time---it lasted 6 months. I knew it was a mistake going in, and it really had nothing to do with age. Me ex was abusive and it started the second he had a hold on me. Luckily I got help and an old friend (whom I harbored a huge crush on) picked up the pieces. We got married 4 months ago, and I couldn't be happier

[jamesprx]

I am still waiting for my chance.
I am 23 now

[Katclub]

I got married about a month after my 25th birthday - my husband was 26. We lived together for 4 years before getting married. We will celebrate our 18th year of marriage in a few weeks, but it feels like only about 5 years

Many people, including the pastor at our church, would say "it's hard being married - it takes a lot of work". I understand what they mean, but to be honest it has been a piece of cake for us. I think the secret to a great marriage is lack of selfishness and a ton of humor.

[KeLLi]

I got married 2 weeks after my 19th birthday in 2003. My husband and I have been married 6 years total and we'll be together 10 years in January.