Take Your Time

#1 (**permalink**) 01-14-2007, 07:22 AM

How long do you think it takes to really get to know someone to the point where you could marry them? Is 1 month long enough? Is 6 months long enough? Is 1 year long enough? What do you think of people who believe in love at first site? Is it infatuation or genuine love?

#2 (**permalink**) 01-16-2007, 06:09 AM

for me, the ideal period would be 2 years so you would really have an idea of what your boyfriend is like

pinkbag · #3 (**permalink**) 01-18-2007, 12:34 PM

it could be any lenght actually..a friend of mine got married within a week of meeting this girl and today its been 6 very happy years for them. And this another friend of mine decided to get married to her boyfriend after very long but wonderful nine years..so i think it is all about personal choice.

#4 (**permalink**) 01-18-2007, 10:35 PM

yes, of course, but one week of knowing a person is too short, your friend was just really lucky, but 6 years is also too long

kitsch_k · #5 (**permalink**) 01-25-2007, 07:17 AM

i cant really say for sure...but at least two years?! but married couples say even when you stay married for so long you still dont know everything...

#6 (**permalink**) 01-27-2007, 12:49 PM

Hard to tell, love and marriage is a nonlinear thing and people even. And I agree with Kitch, you still don't know everything. Richard Bach and Leslie Parrish were supposed to be soulmates, yet they divorced. They were friends first then got married on 1977 and divorced on 1997.

kitsch_k · #7 (**permalink**) 01-29-2007, 09:48 AM

that's a tragic lovestory aja...

#8 (**permalink**) 02-18-2007, 05:17 PM

I really can't say because a person and even yourself is consistly changing , I married my husband after 6mths months an dwe are still kick and I have grown with him so it depends on the things you want to know before you take that step.

kitsch_k · #9 (**permalink**) 02-19-2007, 03:49 AM

all i know is marriage scares the sh*t out of me. period.

#10 (**permalink**) 02-25-2007, 10:17 PM

I think it is up to the individual. I am still after 7 years of being with my husband learning new things about him every day. I think that is the same for everyone.

kitsch_k · #11 (**permalink**) 02-27-2007, 09:28 AM

how did u know pradaprincess that he was the one? how did he know you were the one?

etali · #12 (**permalink**) 03-17-2007, 09:06 AM

I think it's different for everyone, and that the right time is when you can honestly, seriously say that you are certain you want to get married.

I was in a 5 year relationship where the guy wanted me to marry him, but I just didn't feel comfortable with the idea. I'd been friends with my husband for a year, but only dating him for four months, when we got married. We're still together four years later, and I'm happier with him than I ever was with my ex.

kitsch_k · #13 (**permalink**) 03-20-2007, 01:00 PM

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Originally Posted by etali

I think it's different for everyone, and that the right time is when you can honestly, seriously say that you are certain you want to get married.

I was in a 5 year relationship where the guy wanted me to marry him, but I just didn't feel comfortable with the idea. I'd been friends with my husband for a year, but only dating him for four months, when we got married. We're still together four years later, and I'm happier with him than I ever was with my ex.

wow i guess its really true what they say...you will know when its the one

angelthelson · #14 (**permalink**) 03-30-2007, 11:34 AM

you can't really tell but i've known my hubby since 2000, became friends with him for 2yrs, but on the latter part of 2002, we became best friends then that's how everything started. we're not supposed to get married this soon but before his visa came out he asked me to marry him so we can be together. our real plan of getting married is like (at that time, 2005 i think) is like after 2-3yrs.

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