Flirting

[LizF]

I am TERRIBLE at flirting. All the relationships I'm in tend to come from friendships or co-workers, so I don't really ever need to flirt. Subsequently, I can't really do it.
Does anyone have any flirting tips or techniques to share?

[kitsch_k]

pretend to genuinely listen to the things they say when you have a conversation? i dunno..hehhe..

I flirt with my college professor he is so cute . Any way I smile, dress nice, and answer all the question I know. I actually stick out already because I am older then most of the student there in this class. So like kitsch said common conversation usually works.

[pinkbag]

be very observant and catch them where they expect the least...

A subtle touch, eye contact is HUGE!! Laughing, cute comments.

[kitsch_k]

yeah and laugh and casually touch his arm or something...haha

[etali]

I hate flirting, I think its much more natural, and genuine, to just relax and have a normal conversation - if you like someone it will show through and you'll end up being flirtatious without realising it.

At least that's how it's worked out for me.

[Fizz]

Flirting is SO easy and doesn't really take that much effort, you might flirt and not even know it. How you look at someone is important, you can give a sexy look or a innocent look, the important thing is make eye contact, BUT then look away, nobody wants to be oggled, not even men. In a conversation give an interested look and just show your enjoyment in the convo. Oh yeah and don't forget to make a fantastic exit, turn your head a give give a smile as you walk away!

[kitsch_k]

Originally Posted by Fizz

Flirting is SO easy and doesn't really take that much effort, you might flirt and not even know it. How you look at someone is important, you can give a sexy look or a innocent look, the important thing is make eye contact, BUT then look away, nobody wants to be oggled, not even men. In a conversation give an interested look and just show your enjoyment in the convo. Oh yeah and don't forget to make a fantastic exit, turn your head a give give a smile as you walk away!

hmm great idea about the fantastic exit!! sometimes it really pays to tease a little and leave the guy wanting more haha..a little mystery is good..

[angelthelson]

i never flirted with a guy, they're the ones flirting with me! LOL!! but seriously, just be yourself, act natural

[elaine130]

These are all pretty good suggestions - especially listening! I've heard that playing with your hair and looking at his lips is also a means of flirting. But really, I think the best way to catch a guy's attention is to be confident, laugh, smile, tell a joke, laugh at his jokes, notice the little things, etc. Men are either turned off or receive the wrong message (unless intended) if you try too hard.

[Fizz]

Playing with your hair and licking your lips is just to cheesy. Basically flirting is really all about having fun and of course peeking a mans interest. The key is to get him to chase you, but not to be to hard to catch, lol. Being yourself and listening are seriously the most important things, but my suggestion is a whole lot of fun and will drive ANY MAN wild!

[EMMY]

Originally Posted by pradaprincess

A subtle touch, eye contact is HUGE!! Laughing, cute comments.

^my thoughts exactly! hehehe...ah the power of a woman

[elaine130]

Fizz... I do agree that you should be yourself and have fun when trying to pique a guy's interest but I beg to differ about the hair-flip, tendril-twirl and lip-look techniques! Communication is something like 70% body language and mannerisms! And guys are much more visually-oriented than women.

Lightly flipping your hair to one side with your hand now and then (not all the time like you're nervous) while engaging in rapt conversation (but also looking away so he does have to chase you a bit) and/or looking (not licking - eeew!) at a guy's lips like they're sooooo luscious you just want to kiss them are great ways to flirt in addition to smiling, leaning into the guy, speaking in a low tone of voice so he's forced to move in closer to you to hear you... BUT ONLY if you do it ever so subtly AND ever so naturally!

I've seen these gestures work sooo many times with me, my single girlfriends, couples I know or even just while people-watching and observing how men and women interact (esp. when I waitressed). And I've also been out on a blind date or two when I avoided showing any sensual body language so as to not lead the guy on. In fact, my husband thinks it's sexy when I play with my hair ... I guess he sees me as a sensual person who's happy with herself (most of the time anyway). And confidence goes a long way in the dating world as well as in marriage!

[Fizz]

elaine you almost had me disagreeing until you said the key word, naturally. Anything that you do can't come off in any way phoney

[elaine130]

yes, so true fizz! you're right that it would look phony if someone did these mannerisms rather uncomfortably. almost like when a guy tries to flirt with a girl by intentionally showing off his muscles somehow - eeew! but i find it sexy when my dh just casually brushes his hand on his own bicep or deltoid - it shows he works hard to be in shape and he likes himself!

Originally Posted by Fizz

elaine you almost had me disagreeing until you said the key word, naturally. Anything that you do can't come off in any way phoney

[Fizz]

Oh yeah you got that right. My hubby just isn't the type to show off, but let me tell you...YUM YUM on those muscles!