Molestation issues

[carebear]

I know this is a touchy subject. I went through it though and came out on the otherside. It effects me in ways and in other ways it doesn't. I was on a life to disctruction but decided to go to therapy. I still feel like it's there in the balances always taunting me even though I've moved on. I would like to work out some anger issues though.

Here's my question. If you could go to a weekend seminar with other women to "take your life back", would you go?

[etali]

If I thought there was any chance that such a seminar would help me, then yes, I'd go. The worst that could happen is that you wouldn't get anywhere and you'd feel like a wasted weekend. More likely, you'll thrash out the issues you still have with what happened, meet others in the same boat, and maybe even make firm friends with some of them.

If I didn't feel ready to be talking to strangers just yet, I'd wait - but I'd still keep it in mind for the future.

[carebear]

Hmm. I was thinking about this when if I ever get my book published. I would the seminars and would hope many women and men would come out and see what it's all about.

It's in my future but I also want my kids to be old enough for me to be gone a lot of weekends. My hubby would stay with them of course.

Mums the word though!

[britjojo]

I would want to know what exactly would happen at this seminar first. I personally found that therapy helped me, though not as much as it should and I probably should have spent a lot longer in therapy, or else gone back for more repeats as the years went on.

If I really thought it would help, I think I would.

[carebear]

Understandable, brit.


I think I wanted to some physical exercise with a plastic bat and a big pillow, but that's just getting into the anger and hurt and letting it go. It may not be for everyone but I know once I was able to get angry and beat a pillow and scream at my dad, I felt better. The woman helped me to get it out and it was freeing.

The seminar would be much more than just getting angry though. I think the most part would be getting in touch with the feelings in a group setting, with a partner for support, and me getting you to take your life back and not letting what happen be a part of you but something that happened to you and help you to move on. Most people are stuck in the past and don't move on blaming everything they do on what happened to them. I realize some people are beyond that but some still may want to get in touch with feelings once and for all. Pent up anger leads to unhealthy things like porno, drinking, drugging, pack rat behaviors, OCD, over eating, gambling, over spending, over buying, hording, laziness, anger, depression, workaholic and hundreds more things.

The ultimate thing you could get out of the seminar is forgiving the perp/s and having peace again.

Sound good?

[dreamr802]

I would definitely attend a seminar if you think it will help you. Who knows during the seminar you might meet some life long friends. Plus I think it would help being in an environment where you aren't the only one dealing with that particular issue. Good luck!

[Gilipsie]

I went to a seminar like this and it was wonderfully healing. I am still not at the point I can forgive but I can now say that it was not my fault. That isn itself awas a big step for me as it happened very young.

[Lila42]

It sounds like a wonderful idea. What could it hurt to give it a try. Good luck to you .