Long-distance relationships

[Jewel]

Have you ever been in a long-distance relationship, and how did it work for you?

I have been in two long distance relationships in the past, communicating online and by phone for the most part. One of the relationships was very successful, and in fact, we are married now.

[kitsch_k]

i had a two year long distance relationship. yes it worked and then when the time came for us to be together we broke up. LOL. funny how life sometimes turn out...

[dreamr802]

I had a long distance relationship with my boyfriend. We we met online and I was in Florida and he was in Illinois for the first year and a half we were together, then he moved to Florida to be with me until I finished school and everything has been great between us. In fact it will be our two year anniversary in a month!

[medako]

I had a long distance relationship in college. For us, we just couldn't keep it up with the distance and challenges. We eventually split and are probably both much happier now. I can look back on that relationship and realize that we just weren't meant for each other. But that doesn't mean that LDRs can't work for plenty of other people.

[shainee]

I have been in a long-distance relationship, though it didnt work out. There was a lot of trusting issues and it was so hard, you hardly can tell if the other person is cheating on you.

[medako]

trust is a HUGE concern with LDRs. The opportunities to cheat are endless, usually. But then again, if someone is going to cheat, they're going to do it - no matter if their significant other is long-distance or not.

[Periwinkle]

I was in a long distance relationship before. We were together for about two years and he had to go to another state. For a couple of months we met once or twice a month. Eventually, he broke up with me. I was so devastated.

[Lila42]

I had a long distance relaionship once. It was wonderful. We could only see each other three or four times a month, so all you ever saw was the good. The romance was terriffic, the anticipation of seeing each other...but then we moved in together, and after about two years, he wasn't happy anymore. IT absolutely broke my heart. Long distance relaionships can be deceptive; again, it's all the good and none of the bad. It's actually a lot better longing to see someone and missing them than having to deal with day in day out trivial stuff. The novelty can quickly wear off once the long-distance portion is removed. I am glad some of your relationships have worked out though.

[kitsch_k]

Originally Posted by medako

trust is a HUGE concern with LDRs. The opportunities to cheat are endless, usually. But then again, if someone is going to cheat, they're going to do it - no matter if their significant other is long-distance or not.

i soo totally agree..it's all about trust and committment..withouth either, that relationship is doomed for failure.

[lcsamano]

I have never been in a long distance relationship. I am not sure if I ever would be. Trust is a huge factor in that type of relationship. I think that if you saw each other maybe everyweekend or something like that it might work. However, not seeing each other for long period of times, not to sue about that.

[bika]

I had one long distance relationshiop. Actually it is still going on from his side. He is aborad for one year and keep writing that he loves me a lot but accidently I happened to know he has another girlfriend too. I decided to break up and wrote him but he denied. I had proof too so he remained silent at last.

He asked forgiveness and wants to continue our realtionship but I can not believe him anymore. He is coming in this december and I am gonna take my way.

[Gilipsie]

What a shame it is that people actually lie about things like that. I feel for you. Was your heart broken?