Can i vent here,please?

DianneMK · #1 (**permalink**) 02-18-2008, 04:44 PM

I need to vent.Pardon me but as i write this,i am half in tears.I am the mom of three grown daughters,23,21 and 20 years old.My oldest and youngest live in Michigan,and my 21 year old lives in Florida with my husband and i.
I am the grandmother of a beautiful,two year old curly haired little girl,whom i have never met all because my ex-MIL didn't want me to and it was a forced decision on my daughter's behalf.I would love to let her know that she has a grandma who loves her very much down in Florida.
Yesterday,i got the biggest shock of my life.But before i tell you all,i have to tell you about my oldest daughter.She is very lazy and doesn't want to work.At 23 she thinks the world owes her a lot,and therefore thinks she is better than anyone else.
She would rather sleep all day,and party all night.But wait...there is a two year old who depends on her.That cuts into her social life.
I found out yesterday that my daughter had the gall to go to court with my ex's mom,and(my daughter) terminated her rights away as Maddie's mama and let great-grandma raise her.
Now how... i'm sorry ...i am in tears.... do you look at you own baby and tell her that you don't want her anymore?
She told my youngest daughter that she doesn't want the responsibility of being a mom anymore and would rather party.I am furious.
My ex's mom,she is a trip.She is a unfit grandmother.How do i know this?Because her son,my ex, is a convicted sex offender and isn't supposed to have ANY contact with children under 16 years old and she sees nothing wrong with letting him babysit Maddie alone before mama left so her and my daughter could run errands.
I am now beyond furious.My daughter and i don't know what to do about this.We feel that Maddie is best suited with people who will love her and make time for her.You are probably thinking that she doesn't know me,and i might not be best for her.But the baby does know my daughter and so that would not be any problem.

This is Maddie.Now how do you look at her and not want to be in her life?She is the most vivacious little girl who loves everybody she meets.

laura · #2 (**permalink**) 02-18-2008, 05:53 PM

Dianne, I am so sorry this is happening! Unfortunately, I cannot give you any advice. However, you could try posting this on Relationships & Family - The Purse Forum ....There are many women on there who can give you legal advice or share similar stories. Hope this helps, and again, I am SO SORRY you have to deal with such a horrible thing

ricci · #3 (**permalink**) 02-18-2008, 06:10 PM

Laura you are a Jewel.

Dianne, Laura had much nicer things to say than me. I'd have been sending you to Michigan to kick some lady's ass girl!

DianneMK · #4 (**permalink**) 02-18-2008, 06:16 PM

Thank you Laura,i am about to head over there.
Ricci you just cannot imagine how furious my daughter and i are right now,Grrrrrrr.

ricci · #5 (**permalink**) 02-18-2008, 07:28 PM

but what can ya do dianne? Can you change her now? Is she more like her dad than you? The kid has no idea how lazy mommy is, so maybe a decent grandparent raising her is best?

Tellya what dianne, it maybe time to lawyer up and get yourself custody if this baby will be raised in a home with a known sex offender.. This should be an open and shut case for you.

Barbara · #6 (**permalink**) 02-18-2008, 08:27 PM

Dianne i am so sorry hon it just plain sucks.I don't know what to say as i don't have kids.She is a real sweetie ope things work out and you can get her.You and your family are in my prayers.Please keep us up dated if you would.

angelthelson · #7 (**permalink**) 02-20-2008, 09:14 PM

wow i cannot believe what your daughter and the grandma did..... i'm so sorry about this. i think you should consider talking to a lawyer

Bad Kitty · #8 (**permalink**) 03-03-2008, 02:07 AM

Get a lawyer or write Dr. Phil! That baby deserves to be safe and loved. If you love her, do something! I hope it goes well for you, good luck!

stargurl84 · #9 (**permalink**) 03-04-2008, 02:23 PM

Dianne this is a horrible story I am so sorry. I agree that it wouldn't hurt to talk to a lawyer.

ricci · #10 (**permalink**) 03-08-2008, 09:43 AM

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Originally Posted by ricci

but what can ya do dianne? Can you change her now? Is she more like her dad than you? The kid has no idea how lazy mommy is, so maybe a decent grandparent raising her is best?

Tellya what dianne, it maybe time to lawyer up and get yourself custody if this baby will be raised in a home with a known sex offender.. This should be an open and shut case for you.

What's the word Dianne?

kitsch_k · #11 (**permalink**) 03-23-2008, 08:41 PM

oh my..you have to fight for this baby.. i cannot imagine her getting in contact with that offender!!!!!

rusty2rusty · #12 (**permalink**) 03-27-2008, 04:55 PM

This has to be very hard and gut wreching for you. First come here and let me give a hug.

Secondly, I would contact a lawyer. Tell them your delema. Tell them you want to fight for custody. I know in Florida you would be abale to gain custody of the child just by proving what you posted. But I am not sure what the laws are in Michigan.

jimmys devoted · #13 (**permalink**) 03-30-2008, 02:28 PM

In all states, thanks to events thatahve transpired, there is a way to file for emergency custody, especially with what you had said about sleeping and events.

You can hire a private detective to have admissable evidence brought into court. Without it coverups and make nices are possible. So you will need evidence.
Talk with a laywer that specializes in custody. Begin process by filing an emergency custody for child endangerment. It will atek a few weeks but you shoudl ahve her.
theer was a cse that I knew about with ferids down here in tennessee where that happened and the grandparents who were supposidly teh ones being bad mouthed were given custody of teh child and it turned out thatteh ones in cohoots went to jail for fraud on food stamps and welfare as well.
just be prepared for a can of worms to spill. stick to your guns and go the court route....... shes too precious to fall into a hole.....
And MAJOR HUGGGGGGGGGGS

julie

luvbunnies42 · #14 (**permalink**) 03-30-2008, 05:23 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by jimmys devoted

In all states, thanks to events thatahve transpired, there is a way to file for emergency custody, especially with what you had said about sleeping and events.

You can hire a private detective to have admissable evidence brought into court. Without it coverups and make nices are possible. So you will need evidence.
Talk with a laywer that specializes in custody. Begin process by filing an emergency custody for child endangerment. It will atek a few weeks but you shoudl ahve her.
theer was a cse that I knew about with ferids down here in tennessee where that happened and the grandparents who were supposidly teh ones being bad mouthed were given custody of teh child and it turned out thatteh ones in cohoots went to jail for fraud on food stamps and welfare as well.
just be prepared for a can of worms to spill. stick to your guns and go the court route....... shes too precious to fall into a hole.....
And MAJOR HUGGGGGGGGGGS

julie

Great advice! I was going to suggest this as well. Fight for your grand daughter.She needs someone who will. I'm sorry but I'm sad and angry for you. I don't understand how a parents can just do that to a child.It's like they are wired differently then a nutring parent. Good luck and please keep us updated.I wishing you and your grand daughter the best.

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