Do you co-parenting post divorce?

[rusty2rusty]

What happens when you interact with your former spouse?
Are you angry, fearful, upset and defensive? Or are you
centered, focused and neutral? Are you proactive or reactive?
Do you have your business hat on, or are you the scream
machine? Are you reminded of your unresolved feelings you
are still harboring? Do you find yourself upset the rest of the
day after an interaction? Are you worried about the children
and wondering how they are going to do with the divorce or
breakup? You look ahead and realize you have a job to finish
raising your children and this requires a relationship with your
former spouse. It is called co-parenting post divorce.

I luckily don't have to. But my sisters do. So, I can see how it affects the children. I am lucky my ex spouse walked out of my childs life and out of state many many years ago. It really was the best thing. As he was an abusive jerk. But I see my sisters and their kids have problems. Kids can't cope and grades affected at school. parents arege, fight or in and out of job.

[luvbunnies42]

Well, I luckily don't have this problem and hope I wont if it would ever come to that.However I am a child of divorce so I have lived that.

It truely is hard on the children. I didn't have a stable home life as a child.I was in and out of the court system of custody battles.I'd have both parents talking down about the other in our presence. I heard so many lies from both my parents I somehow lost most of the truth I did know. Now my relationship with both my parents is strained and difficult for numerous reasons. It went as far as my father not even comming to my graduation, wedding reception, and other events. I still am not sure if it was mostly him or my jealous stepmom. It was even worse when I gave birth to my daughter. I was so thrilled that day and they were arquing in the background while I was just asking if they would be in later and letting them know what was going on. I was beginning to wish no one was there with me.

The ironic thing is all these years later they are now starting to talk again somewhat. That's hard for me as well.They are doing that for my brother's sake. Not for me after me being the one asking for them to be civil all these years. If it comes to my brother he's the favorite and things are done for him. But, me I have to still deal with the anomosity between them. I wish things were different.I know I would've lead a different life and things would have been better.They weren't though and I'm me because of it.

[jimmys devoted]

Heck no. He had visitation with our daughtyer and she would stay over night. She would sleep on the floor and he would sleep in the bed, he would leer at her and he was creepy. IT ended when our daughter told the court she didn’t want to see him anymore.